Lemmings, are you bothered by other people talking about you?
Lemmings, are you bothered by other people talking about you?
I'm not bothered by it at all, and I'm not at all curious about what they're saying about me. I suppose I just trust that if someone has something to say to me, they will. But I'm coming to realize that is somewhat unusual so I am curious about what you experience if you learn about people talking about you?
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No, definitely not bothered. But it wasn't always this way. I was very self-conscious from my teenage years up to the first few years when I started working full-time.
It was only when I started working that I had to learn to deal with it. I was always taking feedback and criticisms very personally and as an introvert, felt extremely down plenty of times.
I taught myself to see things from the perspective and scale of the world - 7 billion people out there, what does it matter that a few people think of what I do, or what I am?
Of course, cutting out social media definitely helped a lot too. I still have my accounts, but have stopped using them actively, at least the ones that expose my personal life.
With social media out of the picture, I was comparing myself to my peers a lot less and spent much more time on productive things instead - learning a new language, skills, picking up new hobbies and all.
It's not easy, but it is liberating once you figure it out.