Does anyone just wish so much of the burden wasn't put on you?
Does anyone just wish so much of the burden wasn't put on you?
It seems like all the onus is on to socialise in the meantime you are relentlessly judged for how you go about socialising or dating. I am on college right now and I am seriously struggling to make friendships. My anxiety is kinda on overdrive because of it. I am expected to know if I am welcome to come or not but if I am not supposed I am judged severely. Meanwhile there's no one really coming up to me trying to help me. You know I'd like to just once be good enough for someone to come up to me and say that they just want to be around me. Enough of the guesswork. I am tired of it. I'm in my mid 20s just give me a fucking break at this point. So much of my "disability" would just go away if people had the decency to fucking educate themselves and expect me to know everything. I put myself out there and talk to people. I've done my fucking part.
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Maybe don't care as much? First due to the stress it causes. Second, if you pretend to be someone you're not, people may end up liking that instead, and much like with any farce, the longer it goes, the more cracks appear.
Also, something I try to do is, without worrying much for the result, to chitchat with people. If they sound/look interested, I keep going and depending on how it evolves, I might even have gotten someone who I'm going to be hanging with for years to come. If they don't sound or look interested, I slowly drop the attempt and try it with someone else down the line.