The best part of video games back in the day was making memories with your friends, now it all feels like structured fun. “This is how you play the game and this is when you are supposed to have fun” Idk if that makes sense.
I see where you're coming from but I think it depends on the games you're playing. I think Deep Rock Galactic and BattleBit Remastered are two examples of games that are pretty fun and refreshing. I've made a lot of memories with my friends in both games - particularly BattleBit, which is an absolute blast.