My mom wants me to sacrifice my life to make her happy
My mom wants me to sacrifice my life to make her happy
My mom glorifies herself. When parents plan for children, it is the parents' job to provide for the children. They shouldn't see children as retirement plan.
My mom keeps guilt tripping me. I finally told her I can't stand her and she will need to use her money to take care of herself in the future. (I have been paying for her bills.)
What kind of parents put such pressure on their kids? She thinks she has sacrificed a lot of me. She raised me for the first twenty years. I have repaid with interest already.
She needs to stop pressing my button.
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My goal is to raise my kids to be productive members of society and to be happy and better off than I am, including planning for their retirement so as not to be a burden on others. If I rely on my kids to take care of me, then that undermines the message of self reliance that I want to teach. On the other hand, if I fall on hard times or health issues or whatever, then I hope that they care enough about me and that I've instilled in them values of charity, empathy and so on such that they would want to care for me.
Thank you. I need to remind my mom. She sees me as an ATM even though she has her own money. She wants me to pay for everything so that she can leave her inheritance to my nieces and nephews (I have no child.but my siblings do.)