From my experience with a friend, this usually means they’re tired of you, don’t feel like talking, or just a mean person who doesn’t like you and is gonna ditch you. Hopefully, it’s the second. He also could be depressed.
“I like you but I don’t think I can deal with this anymore. I really don’t like talking to people and I can’t commit. I’m sorry. I’m not going to break up with you, I just don’t like talking.”
We do all wear out even our favorite people, occasionally.
I have adapted in a couple ways;
Over time, I have grown more aware of my own habits and of my partner's energy levels.
I like to think I tone myself down when appropriate, for them.
But I don't ever let anyone tell me how to be. But I do like express myself in a way that makes my favorite person more comfortabe - particularly when they are feeling drained.
As long as I'm able to be my natural self most of the time, it works for me.
Sometimes I just give them space. Anyone can be a lot, sometimes. Even me. And the way I can be my full
self while they get a break from me, is for me to be my full self by myself fire a bit.
Sometimes even people who adore me need a break from me. I've learned to be okay with that.
A few people I liked have needed a "the rest of our lives" break from me. That's okay, too. Their loss.
Most people want to hang out with me again sooner than that.
Unexpected bonus: I discovered that being comfortable being alone also made me more attractive to other people.
I gave myself space to become a comfortable happy loner. Then I grew into a leader when people started to ask to join in my hobbies or to go to events with me.
I should clarify here that I didn't start a cult, or anything. I started a computer club, and I organize meet-ups to watch movies I like.
that’s awesome that you started a club!! we took a break and he was more affectionate towards me after, he said he was depressed and that I didn’t actually wear him out but he says stuff when he’s in a bad mood and that’s why he hurt me sometimes. he also said “I don’t wanna text you every day and every hour” but then he texted first :) yay!!
It sounds like a roundabout way of saying he wants out. “I don’t wanna hurt you by breaking up with you but I want out.” Also, saying you wear him out means he’s calling you exhausting.