Because only women are worried about becoming step-parents? (This prolly could've been an Ask Lemmy.)
I'm looking for some good reading on how to, eventually, best help be a step parent to my partner's children and NEARLY ALL books are geared toward the woman's perspective as though men don't want to be a strong teacher and develop these kids into healthy adults. Ugh!
It is because men aren’t engaged in parenting nearly as much as anecdotes suggest. I used to work at a family court and like 19 out of 20 men never even bothered to appear in their custody cases. When you go on reddit it’s a huge vast sexist conspiracy against men but in real life they fail to do the absolute bare minimum.
There aren’t any books about it because you are the 1 out of 20 dude and a large percent of that cohort doesn't buy books.
It's pretty standard in divorces to agree custody as part of the divorce, most custody cases are just "This is what we've decided to do", "cool, here's a paper that says that".
Can we please just admit that there are normal biological/social/economic/perceived/identity differences between men and women? That's not to say all of those differences are good or desirable, or that they are without variation, but can we at least recognize the state of our world without shunning those with different viewpoints?
I'm curious to know how many of those men wanted kids?
We all know that men don't have a say in whether a pregnancy will continue, so I can see at least one explanation that could easily account for the tension in those families, and the observation you've had.
Also keeping mind that this was in family court, not the average family.
I know some spectacular fathers who put in way more effort then their wives. Don't throw all men under a bus.
Even if that insane statistic you pulled out of your ass is accurate. You're still telling millions of hard working dads to get fucked lmao. You are absolutely delusional mate.