Not related to ADHD but similar none the less. I'm eating some leftovers (literally fork in mouth) and my mom asks me if I want to heat it up. I said if I wanted it heated up I'd have put it in the microwave. I'm 37.
I used to get that question a lot when I was a kid. I always politely said "no thanks".
It turns out my face always said "Are you fucking stupid? I understand how to heat things" while I was trying to be a little polite. I found this out when I visited my parents recently and found out that, while I'm still trying to be polite, my face still tells my mom that I'm capable of deciding on the temperature of my food.
My face says things that I don't mean to say even when I'm trying not to be an ass.
So they went to the trouble to point out what your reaction looks like, but they have not once in x decades reconsidered the strategy of asking you annoying questions.
My face is the same. I remember someone trying to start an argument with me because my face apparently didn't match what I had said. I was incredibly confused because no one had ever pointed it out to me before so he was telling me about my facial expression and I was disagreeing because I had no idea.
Moms never stop. I loved living with my mom, but it does mean that I have certain mom-related annoyances in my life. She is constantly trying to get me to eat more and leaves all the lights on everywhere. But, there's advantages too. For example: I love my mom.
I hate eating cold leftovers. I hate the texture and I hate the temperature of the food. I haven't been diagnosed with autism though tests were inconclusive when I tested for Asperger's as a kid but I have traits of autism and I wouldn't be surprised if it's a sensory issue.