Every time we go to Toronto we go to the same restaurant because they don't accept tips, they just pay their staff really well. Fantastic restaurant and I love supporting them.
I've lived for decades in several European countries, but not the UK. I've never paid a tip or been asked to pay a tip or felt like I had to pay a tip.
I was literally in Bergerac a few weeks ago, and a tip of 5-15% was expected practically anywhere I ate - and that's not exactly a bustling metropolis...
I worry that Lemmy fetishises Europe a bit too much as some bastion of freedom, great pay, or amazing rights.
Are you English speaking by any chance? In Germany I often notice that the waiters act totally differently whenever my American parents are visiting than when I'm just out with friends and speaking German.
With Germans they just show up with the card reader and we pay one by one; often people will ask to round up their bill to the nearest Euro but it's not expected.
With my parents (or other Americans that have visited me) they often act like American waiters and bring the bill and then kind of hover next to us and wait for us to initiate what we want to do next. I think they've learned that most Americans will assume 'this is the part where we work out how much tip to give' and the waiters often end up with a (for German standards) gigantic tip. At least this always works with my parents since 'we feel bad not tipping!'
Tipping is totally optional in the UK in my experience. Cafes have a tip jar but it's up to the customer whether they leave one or not. Same with bars/pubs.
Well sure, no one tips in cafes or pubs, but it's definitely expected in restaurants. Hell, we had the tip machines for contactless payment before the yanks did...