I put commands in a bash script, with a parameter for each one, and it lists them all if I don't give a parameter. So for example it goes "arch upgrade" instead of having to remember "pacman -Syuu".
I use paru and the default is "paru" with no parameter for the upgrade. But I am on your team here: I have to Google everysingletime the -Q params for all the queries and I have been using arch for almost 2 decades now: "who owns this file?" "what are the deps of this package?" "Which packages are installed?" "Which packages I explicitly installed vs dependencies?" Not a single one of them is intuitive to query with the pacman command line for some reason.