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Bit of a health scare for the ol' girl yesterday. Fainted, collapsed went to bed. I was in the garden and had no idea. ol' boy was down the bellarine gave me a buzz to see where she was. I found her completely out of it with fever symptoms. He comes racing back directing me on what to do / look for over the phone. Fuck she's lucky to have a medico hubby.
but jeez ol' boys language / demeanor changes when there are problems like the ones we've seen in the last 6 months. Shit gets calm, direct and accurate. He's normally a grumpy old bastard. We have our differences but with mum's polycrisis, we're both on the same page which has completely surprised me.
I'm really sorry to hear what's happened mate. I hope she'll be OK soon ❤️
Thanks man.
I just wasn't prepared for all these things to hit at once. Vision (and the shitload of drugs), teeth / food, physical mobility (and the risk of falls), hearing, memory, depression. It's hard to know what's feeding into each problem.
Used to visit my gran all the time at a 'well to do' nursing home and I really didn't like what I was seeing. The thought of it for the ol' girl scares me as there's a bit of complex care involved and I'm not sure they (or she) would cope and decline would be rapid.
I suppose age comes for us all, if we're lucky or unlucky.
I can understand that man. It's a lot to take in at once.
The reluctance to go into an care place I completely understand. I hope things improve so she can stay at home ❤️
Damn, just saw this. What a lot to go through mate, I'm sorry you had to go through all that (and sorry for your parents too). Mum is indeed very lucky to have a medically trained husband. And it's good that he's able to see what matters and put the grumpiness aside in this sort of situation. Lucky he was not the one to have started losing faculties/abilities first...
If you feel okay with sharing it I'd be interested to know what happened to your mum to have gotten so acutely ill. I do worry about my mum because of her living alone and the kinds of things that can befall her
Yea sure.
About 15 years ago she had mouth cancer, a doc nicked the carotid artery, along with radiation therapy led to her losing her teeth over time as the jaw became necrotic.
Then she had glaucoma. They buggered one op over many, and she lost vision in 1 eye.
Then the rona hit and she didn't do any real exercise for 2 years
Another mouth op, made eating difficult..
Then she had a fall 6 months ago, her remaining eye ruptured, another 2 ops and the pressure was fucked both low then high, okay now but less vision than before
So it's a thing where it's difficult to eat, drink, talk, see, hear (which is unrelated to anything), exercise.
And it's compounding. Not getting enough to eat, lowers appetite, hard to eat anyway, makes exercise harder, which lowers appetite.. not being able to see clearly and poor stability / mobility due to lack of exercise and nutrition, lowers app... and around we go. The fainting yesterday was probs due to new blood pressure drugs and lack of water (hard to drink), which will increase risk of falls.. and around we go.
It's not really 'acutely' ill, it's just everything that's happened to her is working against her pretty quickly together since that fall and decline is x2 speed now. Personally I think she might have had a little bleed as her personality changed a bit afterwards but no one is investigating that.
There's also a lot of refusal which isn't helping her but what can you do.
She's had a lot of expert advice, but now it's hit a hard limit.
Mate, holy hell, that is a lot for her and you to go through. I really appreciate you sharing so much when you didn't have to. No wonder so much is deteriorating so significantly for her, I mean shit a NECROTIC JAW?! over 15 years and everything else piling on top more and more. After a point I can totally see why she would've spiralled psychologically as well. My mum is very fortunate to have no chronic issues other than a sensitive gut (eats very healthily but she also doesn't exercise much). I suspect when that sort of rapid decline starts setting in many of us will find it harder to keep up the strength needed to deal with it all.
I feel for your frustration, if the patient themselves refuses there's only so much you can do. It's definitely a silver lining that at least your dad and you are united on this. I hope your mum at least will get to a better emotional space even as her body declines...
Oh your poor mum, and you & yr dad. Hope she’s ok and is on the mend soon