Reddit and Lemmy (almost typed Reddy and Lemmit!) are their own versions of awful. Me and the mods over at the politics community have beef because they're QUICK to squash posts from us calling people out for being shitty anybody-but-Harris 'lefties' and abject alt-right trolls, but they leave that shit up WAY too long despite it being clearly against the rules. But at least I can call 'em out on their bullshit. Reddit, they'll ban you then ghost you. That's the world over there. Pick your poison.
The difference is that you're on the fediverse. Their influence can only go so far. Same with your influence. That's the beauty. Nobody rules them all.