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So everyone here is saying fuck anon and I agree, but I agree because they are aware of it and intentionally doing things on purpose to exacerbate the situation.
But like, if you're a physically larger dude (maybe even cursed with a hint of melanin), and you've got to walk behind a woman at 2am.. it's just a shitty situation for both people, where both of you feel like you have to do something you shouldn't have to do (women feeling the need to run, defend themselves, or cry for help, and men feeling the need to change their route, stand around and wait until she leaves, or do something awkward and potentially more scary like announce their presence).
I'm definitely not advocating for women to be less cautious on the streets at night or anything like that at all, it's an unfortunate reality that they need to stay vigilant and aware to remain safe. It just really sucks that the way it comes across a lot of the time does little to protect anyone from any actual harm, and just makes normal people feel like shit for making someone feel like they're about to get raped.
As a physically large man who used to work a job that meant he was walking home late at night in the city, just cross the road to overtake. If you're walking that much faster than the other person, you will overtake pretty soon.
Shit, I cross the road to overtake because I'm a smoker and don't want to inconvenience non-smokers with my addiction. Never even crossed my mind that may make people feel safer.
Thank you. As that vice gets rarer, the impact on other of the smell is worse and worse. Itâs not my business if you choose that vice but I appreciate any effort not to inflict it on the rest of us
I'm crossing the street because weed is illegal and I want people to think it's tobacco.
Double thanks, many of us also donât appreciate that smell either. In some cases it smells worse. It took a surprising number of years for my kids to be able to distinguish weed from skunk, when they were little
Hear hear! As a bigger guy with a faster pace, I have yet to find a way that doesnât make everyone uncomfortable while also making me frustrated as hell because I canât walk at my own pace.
Even worse, Iâm probably walking with my dog, who likes an even faster pace, and sheâs a rescue who looks scary and isnât yet well behaved
talk to your dog
Wear a reflective vest. It makes it obvious you're just trying to safely walk your dog, makes you less likely to be hit by a car and signals safety because dangerous people don't usually want to be conspicuous
Maybe if you skipped?
That would be hilarious âŚ. Iâm not sure I remember how.
Step 1: braid your hair. Two braids to the sides or two pigtails, either works
Step 2: get one of those big swirly lollies
Step 3: ba-dee ba-daa
Left- right -- air time -- right-left -- air time
If it makes you feel any better, a large person walking with a scary dog seems much less likely to be a psychopath than just a large person by themselves (to me, at least).
Obviously not to say that large people are psychopaths đ just that someone with an animal they're caring for doesn't strike me as someone who is going to attack me.
I think (as a white dude, so take your grains of salt as you please) that a dog would make you less threatening. Makes it clearer what you're up to, and people bringing their dogs along to mug or rape someone is exceedingly rare.
If youâre a big guy and you find yourself walking behind a woman at 2am AND, unlike anon, youâre not a complete sociopath, you have two options in a nutshell. One, you move your ass and overtake, walking fast. Two, you change the side of the road. Both minor inconveniences.
just not changing pace is good enough in my opinion, that makes it look like he was actually chasing her
if he takes the same road and she is scared it's more of a she problem since he's just going home
imo the solution is just not to do anything sketchy, and teach younger people what's right and wrong, so that the problem can get solved with a better society in the future
(maybe even cursed with a hint of melanin)
That euphemism is a lot worse than just saying "black".
I prefer "of coloredness"
According to...?
me. That's my opinion. Being black is not a curse.
Awesome! According to me, the person I was talking about, "being cursed with a hint melanin" is an obvious in-joke to other black or mixed people. I'll keep describing myself however I like, and you do the same!
A curse is a condition that bestows a disadvantage. Being black is not a curse in and of itself, but being black + being in any one of many places around the world today is definitely a curse-esque combination due to racism.
I roll with disadvantage every time I try to avoid people being offended on my behalf for comments I make about myself. Such is my curse as a sarcastic biracial man in modern America.
Maybe you weren't sarcastic? Stop being so judgemental.
I'm not being judgemental. I literally told you to continue using and disliking words as you saw fit. You're the only one that seems upset.
You're not as good at sarcasm as you think. That's irony by the way.
Once again, you're the only one that seems to be having an issue getting what I said. Seems more a you problem.
Just take the L and move on dude. It's really not that big of a deal. It's ok to make mistakes. I don't really care that you tried checking me on language I used to describe myself, like I said it happens all the time, but this constant badgering is kinda sad. I'd already completely forgotten this entire interaction happened by the time I opened every single one of your responses. It's not that serious.
The irony is that I was being sarcastic and you didn't understand the sarcasm of me arguing that I know what you ment better than yourself - As a reply to a comment where you explained yourself in no unsure terms. I didn't have a problem with your statement at all, but now I'm starting to tire of your boneheadedness. But I'll move on. I won't interact with you again so you should be at peace. Good day to you.
this doesn't just go on gender lines either. i am tall and broad and probably scare people, especially women, in the dark. i hope my appearance at least protects me from being assaulted as well... no one asks for ur gender, when they see u walking around at night.
I've never even considered this perspective before. It's frustrating enough for guys to get lumped in with shitty guys, but to be a woman lumped in with shitty guys, that's gotta be aggravating as hell.
I'd wager you're probably right, though; you've probably got a better buffer against weirdos than a dainty little flower might.