For me it's wood or nothing. Metal scratches the pans; plastic seasons my meal with microplastics. Most woods used in the kitchen are naturally antibacterial. It's a win-win.
I don't personally use any pan can be damaged from scratching. It's cast iron, carbon steel and stainless all the way. I use metal if the dish requires a thin edge or whisk. Otherwise I mostly use a flat wooden spatula which I source locally.