In the Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy (also referred to as H2G2), a hitchhiker will always travel with a towel. Hence why everyone is making frood references.
It’s kind of like when you get a sunburn, and someone comes up and gives you a slap right on the sunburn. Maybe they meant to, or maybe they didn’t. Either way, it’s going to hurt like hell until your sunburn heals.
One of the many things I’ve learned in my two years of therapy is that we carry our pain and trauma around like a big old sunburn, and more often than not we get slapped by other people not realizing we’re hurting already.
I wish you the best on your journey of healing. It’s never easy, and you’ll often find yourself relapsing. But don’t give up on yourself.
I just made "Father of the Year" by enforcing a time limit on my 12 yo playing with his friends on the computer, so his younger brother could play, and now he's in his room in tears. Yeah, adulting sucks sometimes.
At first, not likely. But if you take the time and spend the effort to genuinely get to know your partner (on that intimate level), then yes you can learn their tells. It also takes a lot of open and honest communication, which means sometimes you or they may hear things that are not flattering. But that should be okay and encouraged, because as with anything else in life, it’s through failure that you learn and grow and get better.
