I have a friend that knew me way before I transitioned and we were always really touchy with each other. One day a few months after I began transitioning we were joking around with each other and he pokes me right on the boob (which wasn't really there yet) and just freezes, says "waaaiiitttt" really slowly, then we just look at each other like 😯.
I just started laughing and was like "yeaaa so that's different now, huh?" Establishing new boundaries is a very interesting experience especially when they're inadvertently crossed.
There's a youtuber named Sofia Love who made makeup tutorials years ago and I love her voice. She hasn't put out a video in years though. The girls from the Doll Deranged podcast are also a good example of how trans voices don't need to be hyper feminized to still be feminine and passing and beautiful.
My breakthrough came when I stopped overanalyzing every little mannerism and getting overwhelmed at the thought of needing to relearn how to pronounce every word in my vocabulary. Until that point, I had thought that I needed to learn how to act feminine and that induced a lot of imposter syndrome. I then realized that the only acting I was doing was pre-transition when I presenting masculine because I am just a naturally feminine person. Once I realized that, I kind of just let myself express how I naturally would and its mostly all fallen into place. Hopefully that makes sense. Its 3 am and I can't sleep.