I am sorry for the troubles you are in, hang in there.
I would say you should start by looking at visa, visa requirements and decide on a path. Depending on where you are from you might speak Spanish / Portuguese. With that I’d say aim for Spain or Portugal. Try to find a university, work or path of education you could do. There might be a network for trans people in Spain or Portugal who are willing to help with relocation. It could also be possible to apply for asylum due to the danger of your home country.
If Spanish isn’t an option most if not any European country will be able to help you out in English. UK is an obvious choice but atm they have their own problems around trans rights so I would at most use them as a temporary shelter before moving to a different EU country like Germany or Norway. Ireland is potentially also very good, as a stepping stone.
There is the trans network in the Netherlands they might have some resources for you.
Essentially in the first few days you called just in to work and told them you are sick. No doctor ‘proof’ required. They had to trust you that you are. From the third day onwards you needed proof. So you had to go to the doctor and get it. Then they added during corona that you can call the doctor to get proof for smaller stuff like a common cold. Now they want to remove that all and sent anyone for anything to the doctor.
Plus the doctors / GP already have enough crap to do and are super full we constantly hear in the news that we need more doctors who work the villages blah blah blah. So now the few who do will haven even more work. Also also they claim the old system had been abused by the worker to skip work. Instead of realising that due to corona a lot of people actually still stay home when they are sick and don’t drag that shit to work.
There are not a lot of studies out there, but most studies I remember reading looked at biological differences in school children and or at the highest level of competition. Some examples with shitty formatting below.
Tiller et al. 2021:
(Sorry for the springer link but try not to use a scihub workaround for the pay wall.)
Do Sex Differences in Physiology Confer a Female Advantage in Ultra-Endurance Sport?
Senefeld and Hunter 2024: Hormonal Basis of Biological Sex Differences in Human Athletic Performance, endocrinology vol 165
(1) sex and gender are not the same; (2) males and females exhibit profound differences in physical performance with males outperforming females in events and sports involving strength, power, speed, and aerobic endurance; (3) endogenous testosterone underpins sex differences in human physical performance with questions remaining on the roles of minipuberty in the sex differences in performance in prepubescent youth and the presence of the Y chromosome (SRY gene expression) in males, on athletic performance across all ages.
Or
Brown, G. A., Shaw, B. S., & Shaw, I. (2024). Sex‐based differences in track running distances of 100, 200, 400, 800, and 1500m in the 8 and under and 9–10‐year‐old age groups. European Journal of Sport Science, 24(2), 217–225. https://doi.org/10.1002/ejsc.12075
who found marginal differences in kids during the youth Olympic Games in the USA.
None look specifically at trans athletes, but the small differences in the high competition sports are being used to proclaim a male natural ability to outperform females. It is reflected at all levels of PE class and studies have found that the way PE is being approached as a high competition is putting girls often off of sport. The aggression and risk of injury are often as cited as reasons.
See
Ryan, T., & Poirier, Y. (2012). SECONDARY PHYSICAL EDUCATION AVOIDANCE AND GENDER: PROBLEMS AND ANTIDOTES. International Journal of Instruction.
So in a sense there is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Annyyhow, those examples are only to illustrate what the research is up to and might give you some ideas. Overall the notion men are superior is old and needs to go away especially when we are talking about schools PE class.
I wish you all the best on your way forward. It is crazy how many gatekeeper and blocks are on the way. I get it that you need to be sure, have sufficient time pass and all but this is a tad much.
Thanks, maybe I should steal your doctor :P she seems great. I will see if I can bully the clinic into just signing off the papers or if I can get evaluated elsewhere and then make them take over my existing treatment. My second citizenship has to be good for something.
The way to the clinic was kinda alright all in all 4 meetings and a telephone call over 2 months. But now the wait for the actual assessment is madness.
I really love this guide, every time someone shares it, it makes me happy.
I will ofc try to get the clinic to move their ass faster but if all fails there is DIY for the time being. I’d rather have it covered though by the system :-/
If you don’t mind, what is the long footnote? Boiled down to a few key points, or in full I read either :) I’d wager a guess, bureaucracy, stupid hurdles and half baked laws?
Quick edit, is the footnote also why you use DIY or is it the only option for you?
I love the game, can’t recommend it enough tbh. I think it fits nicely between elder scrolls and gothic.