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CricketyRicket

@ CricketyRicket @lemmy.world

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  • I feel like an undateable bingo card, and I hate myself (and the world) for it

  • Lol, I do not have any of those in my bio.

    I have them as badges/pillboxes/filters (I seriously cannot remember what they're called, been a while since I last did web dev). So, it just shows "Vegan" in interests, and "Don't have kids" and "Don't want kids" in the filter boxes (basically the info that Bumble asks you to enter when you are creating your account; these are removable though).

    So, I do not explicitly write anywhere that I am "antinatalist". I know that it is perceived negatively, and I'd rather just be perceived as "childfree" via the "Don't want kids" tag.

  • I feel like an undateable bingo card, and I hate myself (and the world) for it

  • Thanks for the advice.

    I am aware of how fucked up the dating apps are, and I hate them with a passion. Every single app is owned by the same company, and if you get banned on one, you get banned on them all.

    I am very concerned about compatibility if the expected values do not align, so I am very much opposed to concealing my faults. I am not very worried about me not showing my true self (I am sure I will), I am worried that I won't even find any.

    Thank you for the optimism and kind words though!

  • I feel like an undateable bingo card, and I hate myself (and the world) for it

  • Thanks for the suggestion. I put all that info in because I thought it would get me better quality matches (but now I suspect it may be hurting the score instead).

    Regarding the "Oppsites can attract and compliment.", I would agree with this for personality traits like introversion/extraversion, but I highly doubt compatibility in opposites for the ones I described (e.g. having children). May be you just meant something entirely different, and I just misunderstood this part.

  • I feel like an undateable bingo card, and I hate myself (and the world) for it

  • Because I did not want to mislead them. I thought being frank would get me better quality matches, who are more aligned with me. But, to be honest, I don't really know what the best thing to do is given the algorithm is proprietary. May be I should just remove them in just for better scores, and then handle it in the chat if I get a match.

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    CricketyRicket @lemmy.world

    I feel like an undateable bingo card, and I hate myself (and the world) for it