Why is a mother serving more time than the man who abused her daughter?

Just this week, I sat across from a male psychologist while he asked me if I'd reported abuse my daughter went through at the hands of her dad.

No, I didn't.

First, she didn't say anything until years later, when she no longer had to see him.

Second, the second time I did report something, I was told to stop causing trouble between me and my ex spouse, or I'd lose custody of the kids. I was terrified of being able to protect them even less.

Third, each time I reported cost me thousands of dollars I didn't have because he retaliated through the courts.

So no, I haven't reported anything since then. And yes, I'm ashamed. But shame or not, I don't know what I could have done differently.

The courts truss women like pigs and roast them on a spit for even hinting at trying to protect their kids, then skewer them again when they don't.

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Words can't express my fury. What can be done about it?
Just this week, I sat across from a male psychologist while he asked me if I'd reported abuse my daughter went through at the hands of her dad.
No, I didn't.
First, she didn't say anything until years later, when she no longer had to see him.
Second, the second time I did report something, I was told to stop causing trouble between me and my ex spouse, or I'd lose custody of the kids. I was terrified of being able to protect them even less.
Third, each time I reported cost me thousands of dollars I didn't have because he retaliated through the courts.
So no, I haven't reported anything since then. And yes, I'm ashamed. But shame or not, I don't know what I could have done differently.
The courts truss women like pigs and roast them on a spit for even hinting at trying to protect their kids, then skewer them again when they don't.
This is heartbreaking