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[鳳凰院凶真 Hououin Kyouma]|[alt: 黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui] @sh.itjust.works

3天前

You know like... there are just events in your life that only your close family members know about and can really understand, that even a therapist will never truely feel and understand... and...

Its just so fucking unfortunate that those family members are unqualified to have sort of "therapy" session with you.

Because there are just things only those few people truely understands, and only through them you can really get closure, but then they just either don't like talking about it or guilt trip or blame you or downplay it.

Or you just feel very awkward and too afraid to initiate a conversation about it.

3 评论

What events can only some people "understand"? This premise sounds like an ideal block for communication and therapy, and that's how some conditions persist over generations (i.e. are being protected over generations).
Suffering and problems are universal, there's nothing that didn't happen before and there's nothing that can't be communicated. It's not rare that taboos are being used to cover up abuse.
I think closure is a myth, tbh. Or it's something you achieve for yourself, after reaching a point in your life where parts of the past are no longer important to you.
I spend a lot of my time alone, and I use that tike to reflect on days gone by. Some are better than others, but the point is that sometimes you think and feel things that maybe you had once forgotten. It is a unique feeling to say the least, and yes it is difficult sometimes to describe it to someone who wasn’t there (e.g. therapist or friend). I doubt my family remembers things the way I do; in fact, I’d be surprised if they remember things remotely like I do. They probably had their own shit going on that distorted the situation for them, just like my shit distorted my views for me.
I want you to know I see your posts, and I feel them too. I hope you find your way. You’re not as alone as you might feel right now.