Gay people assume the worst about me because I'm cis white male and thats fair, considering. I'll admit, I wasn't the first to run to their defense. That's on me.

I still remember when a friend of mine was 5 years into his transition the first time he was called "A cis white normy breeder!" at pride, and I think about that when I hear stories like this.

Never met a gay person who judged a someone based on their sexuality, gender or race. Unfortunately that's what you're unintentionally doing in your post though.

Also sounds like you got some specific incident in mind, if that's the case then I'd talk it out with a friend or a therapist.