It depends on who I'm in the company of. Often I feel like an afterthought. Many lesbians describe themselves as "attracted to women" but they don't intend to include trans women when they say that, and say things like "you know what I meant" when brought up on it.
Other times, I feel like a valued and celebrated member/demographic of a vibrant community. Places like here, and with my friends, and in the company of other trans and gnc folk, I feel belonging.
Ugh yeah, when I messaged a trans woman online dating shed usually heavily stress she was trans because she was so used to women bailing. It's so disappointing.