[Help] AirPlay and Siri suggestions not working with newer apps and behaviors

I have my garage connected to Apple Home, and all the relevant settings turned on to have it controlled by Home and Siri commands. But when my CarPlay is on in my car it never suggests the garage door opener. My wife’s phone does, but it doesn’t ever show up for me.

I also feel like my general Siri suggestions are never that accurate or updated with how I use my phone now vs. years ago.

Is there a way to reset Siri suggestions, or get it to update and give better recommendations?

I’m on iOS 16.5.1 on an iPhone 12 Pro.