Skip Navigation
anti_cishet_aktion @hexbear.net emojiman [he/him] @hexbear.net

Those of you who are trans fem- Did you just hate being a guy or feel like you would be comfortable if you transitioned?

I realize those two things can go hand-in-hand. I genuinely don’t mean to be offensive and am asking in earnest. I personally was born male assigned at birth, feel pretty male but also hate being male. It’s not that I wish I was something else, I just don’t like being male and can’t relate to most “male experiences” besides having a dick. I don’t know anyone who is not cishet irl, so I could definitely use some education in this area

14

You're viewing a single thread.

14 comments
  • Early in transition here. I always feel like I’m really bad at being a man. I hate being expected to follow the conventions that go along with being a man. The specific handshakes, referring to each other with terms of endearment like “bro” or “dude”. Not to mention the constant expectation that I’m dumb, lazy, or belligerent. I hate wearing suits (yes, even stylish ones that are fitted properly). And yeah, I’ve had a hard time relating to most guy stuff throughout my life.

    I used to say I didn’t hate being a man. But as I stopped repressing all these feelings and allowed myself to feel the decades of gendered rage and discomfort, I came to terms with the fact that yes, I do in fact hate being a man.

14 comments