dear introverts, what can I answer to a needy and clingy coworker who believes not talking means something's wrong (with me), so he leaves me alone?
dear introverts, what can I answer to a needy and clingy coworker who believes not talking means something's wrong (with me), so he leaves me alone?
I go to work to work because I need a paycheck, not to make friends.
Where I am there is a new coworker that to me acts needy (think of Slow Horses's Struan Loy), tries befriending me, but he invariably asks if everything's ok. I don't care about this person's life.
The first 2 times I didn't think anything of it, but he asks that every day and it's becoming tiring.
I feel mobbed and stalked, mobbed because he keeps insinuating there is something wrong with me just because I don't ask him about his private life and do my job, and stalked, because he is so fixated on me.
going to HR over this seems ridiculous, but I'm starting to hate his voice.
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Have you tried saying, "Please don't ask me that anymore"?
That will address the exact problem without being rude, without offending him, and without opening it up for more questions. You don't owe him an explanation, so don't leave an opening for one. Just say: "Please don't ask me that anymore."
If he asks why, you say, "Doesn't matter. Please don't ask me that anymore."
If he offers an explanation for why he's asking you that, you say, "Ok. Please don't ask me that anymore."
Neat and easy. No unintended consequences.