"At this point, Beehaw seems to not want to federate. They defederated from Lemmy.world and shitjustworks. Both can be found on the join-lemmy page.
They have defederated from the most communities at like 352 lol. Shitjustworks and Lemmy World don't even have that much of a culture difference with...
There are plenty of ex-redditors on lemmy.world (myself included) who think the beehaw instance is way too restrictive and overly sensitive. Don't like the no downvote thing either. In fact, many ex-redditors have complained about that.
There's a lot of people who have left beehaw after the defederation, and I think it's only particular types of redditors who are attracted to the way that's being run. The 4 mods thought they could recreate default subreddits and moderate it all by themselves.
I think you're generalizing way too much, and giving too much credit to us redditors. Most of us ended up in instances by chance. I saw a lot of people recommend beehaw but I didn't like the atmosphere and randomly settled on lemmy.world instead.
I'm still figuring things out, but I'm happy where I landed. No plans on going back to reddit either. I also think that ex-redditors need to stop trying to make lemmy reddit. It doesn't need to be a clone.