Can we all stop the in-fighting for a minute and realise how awesome the platform we are on is?
We are forming communities on the realized image of the internet that we were told we would have back in the 80s and 90s.
You can make your own home on the web and have your own niche community, not owned by any corporation, while still being connected to the wider internet.
I think in a federated approach you’re always going to have disagreements among the parties that have federated. The beauty of a federated approach is that you have options. You can always just move your association to a different instance and in that way nobody ever controls the whole thing. I would also say that, for the most part, these disagreements are made out to be a much bigger deal than they really are.
I don't think if it as a fight. It's just people making choices about the content they want to see and services making choices about the content they wish to host. Which is how it was intended to work. For the most part I think it's just healthy.