Do you expect people to remember your birthday, or do you just let them know when it's coming up?
Do you expect people to remember your birthday, or do you just let them know when it's coming up?
I had a discussion recently with someone about this. Since we don’t really celebrated our birthdays we weren’t sure what’s “normal “.
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If they're close friends and family I definitely expect them to remember. It's a good indicator of who I can trust in my life as well, those who usually remember just also happen to be on the trustworthy list.
We’ve been debating whether someone remembering a birthday is a reflection of how much they care or not.
Everyone has smart phones and already adds people’s phone numbers in their contacts. Just add their birthdays as well and you will be reminded. If you don’t, you don’t care.
Remembering birthdays is a reflection of how much someone cares about birthdays. There's no need to read anything more into that.
Many people (this thread is an example) are either completely indifferent to birthdays or even dislike them. To us (I'm indifferent) birthdays are totally pointless and basically a fact related to identification, like a student number or social insurance number. I remember my student and social insurance number because I have to, in order to function at school and in society. I don't ask anyone else's student numbers because it's entirely pointless and useless information to me.
Well said.
For me it correlates so yes. I'm not saying one is necessarily caused by the other.
Conversely, I set up birthday reminders for the people I care about.