My hope is that someone (Mozilla? Apollo devs?) stands up a Lemmy instance “for the average user” similar to what Mozilla did for Mastodon. It’ll take moves like that to get some degree of critical mass and help the average user switch to federated apps like Lemmy. https://blog.mozilla.org/en/mozilla/mozilla-social-mastodon-private-beta-announcement/
It's the one the devs run and so is often treated as such, but they discourage it in order to encourage decentralization and because they don't want too much moderation overhead.
It's unfortunate, when I signed up a day or two back I tried several other instances first but they were all down. Or some kind of weird communist thing. So I ended up with lemmy.ml simply because it was there at the time.
I've seen a lot of comments about adding a mechanism to allow user accounts to be migrated from one instance to another, hopefully that'll get added relatively soon and then I'll be able to diffuse out to a smaller instance.
Yes, if mozilla makes an instance the game will be changed. The biggest problems I'm seeing people on reddit say is that making an account is awful and picking an instance is too hard. Please mozilla