TIL about the deer fly, a harmless friggin annoyance that can shapeshift into something hard to find on web

I found this on my head the second time today, last time i thought it was a spider (with doubts)
So i tried to look for it for like 1-2 hours before i got it finally

But they did not look like the first image because they can shed their wings when finding a suitible host and their wing shed form does get less acssociated with its name.
Its at least harmless because it does not really carry illnesses but it can leave an itchy head for weeks :/
Better than ill at least