Hanna @ choihanna @lemmy.zip

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The problem is that I'm 1.60m and I've been harassed previously in an airport at broad daylight. That's why I'm a bit scared to do this but I think I'll stay by the police department

Honestly I might give up on it, it's not something that you really need to live 🤷🏻‍♀️

Okay the issue here is, I've done this before and it didn't work. And right now I'm not on a stage where I want to expose my transness to my social circle, what's most likely to happen if I tell a guy who is into me is that he will be shocked and tell a lot of people. Also there's barely any men interested in my hobbies unless they're gay

Uhhh yes, but maybe I'm confused about why they don't give signals of not being a good fit untill they stop talking out of nowhere. Maybe it's my personality I don't know

Honestly? No, my hobbies are gardening, reading and writing, and most guys are into videogames and gym. Like all of them it just feels so stupid how a lot of them like those two things. But at the same time I might not see a man with my same hobbies as masculine, which is a huge turn off for me.

But sexuality is not just a label, and it sounds like internalized homophobia. If you're attracted to a male of any kind you're at least bisexual and there's nothing wrong with it.

Thanks 🫶🏻 something that I noticed that makes them leave a lot is when I ask if they're bisexual. Because in my mind if they're willing to have a relationship with a trans woman then they must be bisexual? It's just an opinion I don't understand why lose interest just because of that

Uhh no actually I have very bad grammar because I'm not a native speaker, and I'm the opposite of autistic I'm very talkative and social 😅

Thanks for the honesty, yes I know it and it's understandable. What I don't understand is why stay several dates?

I don't know, it does seem dumb but that's what they do

I haven't met any man yet who told me he got a lot of matches from older married women, maybe I need more male friends but I haven't heard much of it 😅

Men do the same, actually even worse because I've met a few who are already married 😭

What does take charge mean? I date older men, I'm sorry but if a 40 year old man wants to be taken care of by someone half their age... Sorry but that's not the kind of man I'm looking for

Hahaha it's funny why do I always get accused of being AI in all my social media? 😭

No honestly I don't like compliments, I just have a hard time telling the difference between a fetishistic one and a normal one

I'm very confused, I don't see where they mentioned my sexual characteristics 😭

But I'm very upfront about the fact that I'm not a sexual person at all, which I know is a turn off for a lot of guys

But a lot of them still stay after all, I get 100 matches a day so there's very different kinds of men, I still don't understand why they leave and I think it's because they have dates with me as a second option while they're trying something with another person they like more

I'm not really attracted to trans men, but I do know a lot are very handsome just not my type. The thing is, I don't disclose it directly on my profile, only on that note, so the interactions are like these:

Thanks for the advice, but I already tried when I was a teenager. I only accepted a date from a classmate who later physically hurt me after I disclosed that I'm trans. What I like about the apps is that they can't hurt me physically they can only say bad things