As you did forbid the main time killer and i got banned from the other.
Then YouTube or watching some movies/TV shows, some phone games, maybe googling/looking something up.
Of course music and audiobooks, but that's not really spending time on phone, those are just playing on the background.
Games workshop. Slap a 40k skin on a turd and it just becomes awsome.
Yeah, within reason and taking night time peace into the consideration, but those are unlikely to bother anyone or even get caught. But getting caught already indicates it wasn't one of the quiet/not noticable ones.
House party at apartment building? That's one of the "stopped clock being right twice a day" thing.Fuck em, landlord kicking them out was the good outcome and they were right for once.
Yeah, usual pattern is to first go to psychologist. Who does all the talking and diagnosing and then getting diverted to psychotherapists who finalizes the diagnosis and starts any medication regime.
Yes you're right about that. Being a guy and growing up with strong remnants of stereotypical gender roles with the most common advice since childhood being to "STFU and man up" isn't the most beneficial for good mental health development. Though i have improved over the years and even come to acknowledgment that mental health and emotions do actually exist for guys as well. Back in teenage years/early adulthood i did consider those to be just a different branch of astrology.
Good point and i do agree. Baseline assumptions should be revaluated from time to time, usually in the light of new information. That's the main reason I'm regularly having these discussions. Sadly i still am a human not a supercomputer and i can miss details/some information and I'm prone to biases.
I'm in Eastern Europe, we have kinda double layerd system.Free universal healthcare, but that's really underfunded so only the basics work for emergencies.Private healthcare which is just really expensive with minimal aid form insurance companies for the actually necessary services.
I haven't given up on therapy, just the main issue that pushed me to it dissipated over time and I've dealt with ADHD for my whole life and developed good enough and by now even healthier coping methods for it than before. ASD side is newer one but I'm slowly, over the years, exploring what aspects of my mind are effected by that side. Social and emotional side seems to be most effected. Of course if financial and time situation improves over time, i will likely try therapy out again, even if just for experimenting and testing out my taught patterns.
No worries about the sentence structure. It's completely understandable.
I'm sorry about that, i didn't intend it to be heavy, more like just a light discussion or sharing worldviews/perspectives and pointing out flaws in reasoning.
Yes, during the first summer when covid started. I had quit smoking a few years before that, but got a bit carried away with alcohol afterwards and quitting it cold turkey did trigger a major depression. Tried therapy at that point as it did got debilitating enough and that's when i got rediagnosed with ADHD and ASD added in as well. Primarily focused on ADHD treatment, but as it all had to come out of my own pocket and locally available meds were completely useless then i pretty much gave up on that after around half a year. Depression slowly faded away during that time.
I haven't really tought about trying again, primarily because any sort of therapy is even more expensive now if going for private clinics, though more available and nearly impossible to get an appointment if going for the socialized healthcare route.
So basically there aren't any serious enough or debilitating issues to justify financial and time cost associated with therapy or what i already can't handle myself.
I do agree with the losing point and outside of work I don't really talk to them, but we all work in the same place so coming into daily contact is kinda inevitable.
White or black, depending on color scheme, as we can clearly observe right now. E
Could be or yeah it could be my own bias from childhood, but enough people around me already display hatred/resentment/dismissiveness towards different minorities to raise suspicions in addition to slow additude change for the positive over the years when i went from overweight to muscular reinforcing the opinion that most of them are just following in built biases.
Of course they can tell I'm weird. But right now I'm just that, their oddball, starting to give reasons why I'm that oddball could likely push me into the other group, basically pushing me from ingroup to outgroup. Yeah that could be just my own fears, but i can't see any benefit in telling either. So from my perspective it's a possible risk with no discernable reward/benefits.
A waitress or basically anyone providing a service who i will see just once in my life, doesn't need to know anything beyond the basic interaction script for said service. Similar reasoning could be applied to groups of people who i encounter once a month or even up to once a day for a brief period, basic social interaction script works there as well.
As for coworkers or generally groups of people who i need to spend longer times together.Yeah fair, it might benefit if some of them knew, though who knows is really up to the individual and their behavioral patterns. Maybe more beneficial in the beginning of the long term acquittance, so maybe some accomodations could be made, but I've been in the same environment for years. I've already made any accomodation i might need and any forgetting/attention issues(from the ADHD side) is just accepted as running costs. As long as those running costs aren't much higher than the average and overall income i produce is in the positive, anything else is irrelevant.
For lovers/potential partners. As i almost skipped over that aspect of life, i don't have enough experience to determine any patterns.
Though yeah it makes sense to be as open as possible with them, because I'm supposed to live and share everything with them and work together as a single unit. Knowing the other persons behavior, weaknesses, strengths, habits, is rather beneficial in determining how the relationship might work together or what aspect one can do better than the other.
And yes my wife is one of the few people who knows as i did got rediagnosed while we were married.
Of course this is based on my experience and feel free to point out any issues with it as this type of discussions can be rather beneficial.
Fair point, but it seems to based on an false assumption that most people actually care or are open minded and compassionate enough to take it into consideration.Most people will just shrug and go on with their day as it's completely irrelevant for them aka neutral response. Rest will laugh you/me out as it doesn't fit into some narrow stereotypical representation aka generally the high support need autism and go on still demanding the exact same as before, just with less respect/seriousness than before aka the negative response.
I do agree that telling to those who actually are compassionate and caring enough is beneficial and those handful do actually know about it. But they are just a handful of people, literally i can count them on my one hand aka need to know basis.
Depends where.
In online, whenever someone asks, due to lack of judgment and consequences.
In real life, on the most strict need to know basis. Overwhelming majority of people don't need to know, because it changes absolutely nothing for the positive and has a possibility to change things/attitudes towards the negative.
That makes sense, thank you for explaining. I can oftentimes miss some meaning in text, even with the ones i write.
Just for clarification, i usually do try to compensate with different activities to avoid exactly that happening and still manually regulate my sleep/wake cycle. I have alarms on every single day regardless whatever it's workday, weekend or vacation. It just takes active effort to do it, while work already provides that structure and activity/goal.
Well the next day drowsiness is one of the most common side effects of taking it too much.
In addition to constantly seeing the same people drinking caffeine products late into the evening, absolutely no exercise and complaining how melatonin does nothing is already enough to presume that they are using it wrong or aren't taking sleep hygiene seriously enough.
Most people do take it without any preparation and in too strong dosages. Basically using it as a high dose stand alone sleeping pill rather than a sleeping aid in conjunction with general sleep hygiene, which starts already during the day.
Like if i have to resort to the last method, i will be drowsy during the next day, but it's better than being completely sleep deprived.
Why do everyone always think i have no interests, when i say i like to work? Of course i have.
Like i love resistance training, but that's luckily a rather self limiting activity, but takes absolute max few hours a day. I like PC gaming, but that's really prone to hobby burnout. As a backup i have mini painting and I like to tinker/customize my PC, so there are enough activities to alternate between. In addition i like to work with my hands and there's almost always some construction work/tinkering somewhere to be done. Though almost all of those activities can be rather costly.
To maintain that interest, i just have to do those sparingly. Otherwise i will suck any enjoyment out of those rather quickly. Of course i will return to those after a while, but just to once again suck any enjoyment out of those.
Yeah I'm fully aware that retirement will be rather difficult for me and I'm not planning to retire and if I'm forced, i have a long list of activities already lined up and retirement fund to fund those, but yeah it's going to be hard and i will die rather quickly through just fading away.
Actually liking to work makes the unemployment part rather irrelevant, because theres always work to be done.
Same, 1,9mg of melatonin, but if any of the preparation during the day isn't on point. That melatonin does absolutely nothing. With the preparations It's providing a slight push to speed up falling asleep.
Yeah completely fair, just slowing down and controlling breathing is good enough for me as well.
Fully agree, that part helped the most with improving falling asleep time and sleep quality.
More melatonin and breathing exercises i referenced in other comment are for those abnormal, one off occasions and usually the cause can be pointed back to some daily activity.
Noup, it all melts together into one indistinguishable noise. Sometimes it's better, sometimes it's worse.
When a person who I've known for longer time is speaking loudly and clearly towards me and I'm ready to listen, then i can mostly understand what they're saying, of course if the environment is somewhat normal.
But if it's a new person, with a bad speaking mannerisms, that's already enough to make whatever they're saying completely incomprehensible, even in a quiet environment. Add in some noise and there's even no point to try to understand them.