I didn't claim misogyny didn't exist, I explicitly confirmed it does. I didn't say misandry was worse than misogyny, I said it wasn't a competition between the two. Just because YOU don't recognize it doesn't mean that OTHER people don't feel it's effects. For you to come in and claim to tell other people that their experiences are invalid because you personally don't believe in them is the height of narcissism
I know I'd rather wait a month than spend $40+ extra for the privilege of being an unpaid beta tester
When new games are approaching $100 and you know you can wait a month or two for it to drop $40 it's an easy decision
Misandry exists and it's a valid concern for a lot of men. To write it off and pretend it doesn't is to feed more people into Peterson's cult. That's not to say that misogyny doesn't exist either, not that it's not as much of a problem. It's not a competition on how much life sucks for a particular group of people. We're all just trying to get through life however we can and everyone needs their own space. And so far 99% of men's spaces are this sexist alpha male pigheaded bullshit. And everyone is so afraid of making another type because they'll be labeled as more of the same. This is for just normal ass people who just need someone to talk to who understands what they're going through. None of the Peterson bullshit. None of the misogyny. Just guys helping guys. And it's telling that my first post saying "Peterson sucks" is very upvoted but my post saying "Peterson sucks, here's an alternative for men that's not sucky" is not
Man born with golden lips attached to his ass attempts to judge others on excessiveness
/c/reprieve@lemmy.zip is here for male-identifying persons to get away from this kind of hate and find a better place to connect with their fellows where just regular normal people can talk about shit without judgement and without the specter of dumbass made up sexist shit like Peterson spouts hanging over them.
Disappointed but not surprised to see the downvotes, apparently there are Peterson fans here.
Dude is corrupting impressionable young men the world over and there should be some charge for flooding these poor people with hate. Should not be able to just do this and be fine and dandy in his secure house where he wouldn't come within spitting distance of any of his cult.
/c/reprieve@lemmy.zip exists for people who would like an alternative to Peterson's sexist bullshit.
This is the absolute worst time to be vindicated in your "radical end of the world" predictions. I hope everyone who said people were "just overreacting" are welcoming the leopards into their homes with smiling faces.
I've already posted a bigger post about some of my past, but heyo, nice to meet everyone, y'all can call me whatever you like, I'm the creator of this space. I want everyone to feel like they can come to me with whatever they need, sorta open door policy I suppose. I want this to be more of a community project and less of a 'my' project kind of thing so any suggestions or the like are very welcome. This is OUR space.
I've been a guitarist for a long time, decades, until my Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome started hitting me really hard. Especially in my fingers. It got really hard to play anything I used to be able to play, and then it got hard to even play basic chords; things I could play within my first 6 months of picking up a guitar become impossible. I haven't been able to play in years and it's hit me pretty hard. Alcohol has been a good friend, arguably TOO good of a friend, but it kills the pain like nothing else does. Mostly physical but mentally too. I'm in a good head space now but the depression never entirely leaves you and I've found I've been leaning more and more heavily on alcohol as a crutch. It's a thing I am aware of at the least, I know it's not healthy for me but shrug it's better than the alternative I feel. At the moment.
The MAGA half of America is very much pro-genocide. It's terrifying
That.....makes a lot of sense lol. That's exactly how it plays out, yeah. I think it's a wonderful addition to Trekkie-type show catalogues, personally.
It started out being a Seth McFarlane show but quickly became a pretty legit sci Fi show. McFarlane has always been a Trekkie, he was even in Enterprise, so he actually tries to do right by it once he gets most of the Family Guy type humour out of his system
I'm glad you were strong enough to do that, I know that can be hard :) Hopefully she'll get some help and y'all can be friends again, but don't get roped back into it until she stops treating like you an accesory and starts treating you like a friend.
GTA. It just seems really boring to me, I dunno. A lot of shoot em up and not so much substance. To be honest I feel like that for a lot of open world games. It may be wide as an ocean but it's deep as a puddle. That's not ALWAYS bad but I generally would prefer a more linearly running game that's a lot deeper.
My only moderator options appear to be ban user and report. Not sure where else I'd look for it
You just said she calls you abusive for not feeding into her ego. That IS insulting you. And if she's doing this to others too, I would get far away and not look back
I would've said try and ignore it at first, but now that you've said she's straight up insulting you for not playing into her delusions, yes, it would probably be good for you to cut her off, for your own sake. How she deals with that is her problem, you're not obligated to cut your nose off to make someone else look better.
Should probably get some therapy for narcissistic personality disorder. There's likely nothing you can say to help
So now that we've got a decent base here I'd like to have a space for people to just sorta be able to talk a little bit about themselves without pressure if they'd like to. Some of the stuff they're going through if they'd so wish, some hobbies or strategies you use to get through life in general (has been pretty shitty in general lately), maybe what they're hoping for from here. Nothing is required, say as much or as little as you'd like. Suggestions for this place are a-okay too if you've got some
It is really important to have someone you can talk to and it seems like there are a lot of people who doesn't have this in their life. You live your life and think that some stuff is normal while it isn't because you can't know better.
Exactly. And I'm hoping this place can be an opportunity for people who don't have someone like that in their life to get some support and guidance they may be otherwise lacking
I did not even expect to hit 10 subscribers total to be honest. I hope this community can be a helpful and positive experience for everyone. I know I have felt alone at so many times in my life and felt I had no one to turn to. I have been SO lucky to have a wonderful brother without who I probably wouldn't be alive today. But I know some people aren't lucky enough to have that support. And it's clear so many men feel this way too in this world, and they end up finding role models wherever they can.
Unfortunately they have been in some horrible people lately. I started this with the idea of people just coming together for a common cause - to have a space to talk about the sensitive topics that many may not want to or cannot talk about with their real life people, to get perspectives and support from other people who have been in similar situations, and to hopefully make life a little less shitty for everyone in the process. Thank you everyone for being willing to take part in this with me, and to hopefully create our own little family with better advice and role models than the Internet currently offers.
If anyone has any questions for me or just want someone to talk to one on one, please please feel free to reach out!
I'll vent a bit here to get started. When I was 15 I was sexually assaulted by a woman and no one would believe me. Or if they did believe me, it was the "well what's the problem, was she ugly or something?" Usual spiel. I still have PTSD over this but I cannot speak of it to anyone because it's the same shit over and over again. When I was 16 my girlfriend put out her cigarette on me for the first time. This would continue for the next year and a half before I managed to leave her. I still have over a dozen scars inflicted by her.
I have an EXTREMELY hard time trusting anyone or forming attachments in general because of what's been done to me and I really don't have anyone to talk to about it other than my brother, who went through his own physical. When I was 21 I got into a mentally and emotionally abusive relationship and I let that go on for three years because I had been conditioned into thinking that it was normal, and I had to just "man up" and take it in my previous relationship so I considered the step down from physical abuse to be a bit of a blessing. It wasn't.
I wish I had had someone to tell me that none of this was okay, that I did not have to let myself suffer through these things, that just because I was a man did not mean that I was a free ride to whoever wanted me and I shouldn't compain because I "got some", that I am a human being who has feelings and emotions and should be allowed to express them without being threatened with physical harm.
I want everyone in this place to be that kind of person for everyone else in this place. I want this to be a place free of judgement to share the things that you can't share with others. And I want us to come together as a community to support everyone who comes here seeking help. Life fucking sucks but together we can make it a little less sucky.
After seeing so many people feel so ostracized I wanted a community they could feel welcomed in. This is I hope going to be a positive male-orienated space. No alpha male Peterson bullshit, no sexism, no putting down people, this is a space for men to bring each other up and vent their issues they would otherwise be judged for to people who will understand and build them up rather than bring them down.
Not uh sure what to say here. Never done anything like this before but I've grown tired of seeing so many people hurt so badly in so many comments. This space is meant for people who identify as male to air their grievances and come together as a community to help build each other up. Sexism will NOT be tolerated, this isn't a "complain about your partner" club, nor will dumb made up shit like alpha male Peterson bullshit. Otherwise feel free to talk about what you're unable to talk about in your daily life or just whatever I suppose so long as it isn't shitty to a group in general.
Edit: Nevermind, got it figured, thank you though!