Anon asks out a girl

Nah but for real if some random stranger at a bar overheard me saying I'm single and then came up to me and my friends like that I would be a little creeped out too.

I wouldn't be mean about it, but I definitely wouldn't say yes.

This is definitely one of those 'creepy if ugly' moments. If he was a handsome guy, it would be romantic and has almost definitely happened in a million Hallmark movies.
- If he was handsome it would still be creepy

I can't imagine why no one would want her with that shining personality

Fake: Anon left the house

Gay: Anon was a girl this whole time

Reminds me of the guy who dmed me that he wanted to touch my boobs in broken english. I made fun of him so hard that he started calling me "mean" and stopped texting me

The comments on here make me glad I'm aromantic.

Yeah. It turns out a bunch of tech obsessed nerds aren't the most socially well adjusted.
Reddit is even better than this.
I misread that as aromatic and was quite confused.
- Look, I might be a bit aromatic sometimes, but no, that's not what I meant.
- They reproduce by spreading spores like Rob Lowe's character on The Orville
As a lesbian leaning pansexual, I keep asking the question "are straights okay"
- No, they are not. (As a straight person by most definitions probably)
- Nope.
  I was straight for a long time (until I was 35). I think my brain chemistry changed through relationship and dating trauma. Seven years later and I continue to no longer feel attraction to anyone at all, ever.
Hey, thanks… I didn’t know that was a thing that’s separate from asexual. I thought I was just Ace, but Aro-Ace is more accurate.
Not sure it matters a whole lot. Haven’t given it much thought.
I enjoy working and making things. I find being intellectually stimulated almost as satisfying as being happy or anything else. You have absolutely no idea how much of a super power being an aromatic asexual would be for me. I'd be unstoppable, lol.
- I think I know what you're getting at, I wouldn't necessarily call myself asexual though, as I do watch... naughty things (I'm too lazy to look up rules, I'm not shy in that respect) I just waste a lot of time getting informed on politics instead, so no guarantees for more free time😉

Fake: anon approached a girl

Gay: anon was daydreaming for 3 hours about getting engaged

Can I still get your number, with personality like that, you will be!

The picture made me assume anon was a girl, so I was thinking that if you, a girl, hear another girl say she wants a man, and you offer your womanly services, it shouldn't come as a big shock to be rejected and laughed out of the room... Then I read the comments and thought "oh. Yeah. That makes more sense."

Assumptions ᕕ( ᐛ )ᕗ

I mean, considering there’s a 100% chance this is just a fantasy in anon’s head I’d say she dodged a bullet.

What makes you think that the girl is even real?
- What makes you think that girls are even real?
- Tits or gtfo
- Chatbots would have strung him along for at least the subscription fee.

Sounds to me like you just dodged a bullet, mate.

Absolutely. Anyone willing to treat a stranger this way is unequivocally a shitbag.
She will die alone, whether she is married or not.

No wonder she's single.

"Sorry, from across the bar I couldn't see how ugly your personality was. It all makes sense now."

Guy's a creepo, gal puts people down unnecessarily. Both will unwillingly die alone.

Why is the guy a creep?
- He's not a creep, but he has the emotional intelligence of an insurance investigator.
  "Hi, you sound needy and vulnerable" is a rough starting point for a pickup line. He clearly didn't mean it as an insult, but it's not hard to imagine a woman in that situation being embarrassed, feeling exposed, and being insulted by the implication that this guy might be trying to capitalize on her moment of vulnerability.
  Hurt-people hurt people.
- What he says boils down to "I was eavesdropping your conversation, and I assume you're desperate. You might as well lower your standards — date someone random you have no connections with, like me." It's bad; not bad enough to deserve that rude reply, but still bad.
  A better approach would be to try to pick up a woman who's alone, offer her a drink, chitchat a bit, and then ask her for a date. With no references to what she said to other people. Creating some connection between him and her, before he asks her out.
  always ask the bar workers to bring it. Don't bring it yourself.
- You don't go up to someone and say hey I was listening to you complain about wanting a guy, how about me? and expect a good response.
- Because he spoke to a stranger that didn’t want him to speak to them.

I mean this is probably fake ragebait for the 4chan crowd

Super rude on her part, but it's also extremely intrusive, rude, and weird to walk up to a total stranger you've never even talked to and ask her to dinner solely because you've been sitting alone at the bar for three hours overhearing her complain to her friends about being single. I'm not saying it can't work if you're physically like an 8–10/10, but that's effectively all she has to go on besides this obviously weird thing you're doing.

"I'm not desperate" could totally be referring to what he did rather than how he looks. This is George Costanza shit.

Um, this is the point of going on a date? To get to know someone new? She shouldn't need anything else to go on until after they've spent some time getting to know each other? A first date is not a lifetime commitment.
How else do you get a date with someone, if not by asking them?
- The point of a date is not to get to know someone new. It's to get to know someone romantically. Some people want to know a little bit about someone before they are ready to decide if that's something they're interested in.
  It's not always "that" you ask someone. Sometimes its when you ask.. or how, or what you say.
- The point of going on a date is getting to know somebody better because you're interested in them. Why on Earth would this woman be interested in this weirdo who she knows nothing about except, at most, that he sat alone at a bar for three hours straight, listened to her conversation, and interrupted her to ask her to dinner on the premise that she needs saving from being single specifically by him?
- Stories like this are presented from the POV of the guy, even from that perspective it's not 'good', at best it's just not 'bad'
  There's nothing wrong with asking but also like don't just drop it out of nowhere.
  Even if the vibes are right, you can't just walk up to someone, say 'wanna date?' and get good results. That's especially true if you open by saying you were evesdropping.
  Chat with someone for a bit, see if you click before asking them on a date. Even just buy them a drink and give them the option to approach you.
  She was a massive dick, but that doesn't mean he handled the situation well.
Nah.
Rude?
On the guy's part?
No, not at all.
Done pretty clumsily, awkwardly?
Sure.
But, assuming OP actually said what they said they said, that's not impolite, that's not rude.
Its not insulting.
It makes literally no difference at all that the guy was sitting in the bar listening to her talk to her friends for 3 hours before he worked up the nerve to attempt to ask her out.
What if he had... just walked in and did this?
Or... been at the table nearby for 30 minutes?
Or was playing Pool for an hour near the table?
None of those things factors in to how rude or not his actions toward her were.
Also... what world are you living in where talking to someone you haven't previously met, in a bar, is a social faux pas?
The... whole point of going to a place with a bunch of people drinking is to be at a place with a bunch of people drinking.
I met new people at bars all the time back in my college days, made a lot of friends that way, sometimes a bit more than friends.
This is like, how society worked for at least a hundred years, basically before the invention of TikTok/Instagram.
I am honestly baffled by your stance here.
This isn't a sit down restaurant.
Its a bar. A pub.
Like sure, barging into an ongoing conversation and inserting yourself into it does require some tact, skill, and ability to just bounce off if its clear your presence is not appreciated.
But her level of cruelty was far, far more rude than anything this socially anxious guy did.
I was the guy who apparently was in your 8 to 10 range, as I'd do basically this, though a bit more smoothly, and fairly often it would work.
Sometimes you get a soft, polite no, and that's totally fine.
Sometimes, you get a hard no, a vicious no, like this one.
And that stings.
This guy, OP? His entire world is hard nos, every time he tries.
He is literally despairing over this, and you call him rude.
This is the kind of mindset that you have, that led to the proliferation of the saying and concept 'Bros before Hoes'.
That doesn't mean all women are hoes.
It means guys with pretty privilege wingman for their bros without it, and help their bros recover from brutal rejections like this one.
Honestly, I've even wingmanned for socially awkward gals too, work them into a conversation I'm already having with some guy they've told me they very much fancy, but are too scared to even approach.
- Thanks for typing it out! Half of the people here apparently have never dated or had fun the old way, without apps. In fact, it's downright sad to see that basic human interaction is dying out. These skills that everyone kind of had to learn in the past transfer to day to day life. Many younger people are just not pleasant to be around in the office because they have zero social skills.
- I think it's not so much that he approached a stranger or even that he overheard the conversation, but using his overhearing of the conversation as the whole pretense of asking her out.
  "I heard you talking about how you need a date so here I am"
  The problems are:
  While you don't expect privacy, it is still kind of weird for someone to explicitly mention that they were an unintended participant to the conversation. It amps up the awkwardness which is the last thing you want if you are trying to make someone comfortable. She may very well be explicitly aware that her conversation was overheard, but it's something that can be put aside, except it was explicitly brought up.
  Further, the rationale makes it sound like he thinks he is doing her a favor. The takeaway is not "you seem interesting/attractive and I'd like to get to know you" it seems more like "you seem like you are in need and I could do you a favor by taking you out". That takeaway is going to feel like the offer makes her just seem more pathetic, like a "pity date". Particularly in front of her friends, any whiff of a "pity date" will trigger being defensive.
  Of course the story is probably all a fabrication, but taking it at face value I certainly see how it is 'off'.
- Also... what world are you living in where talking to someone you haven't previously met, in a bar, is a social faux pas?
  It's not inherently. That's why the sentence had more words than just the ones about being strangers. I expect you to know how to read sentences given your comment is a fucking wall of them.

Seriously, you just learned why

It’s a greentext.

At a greentext commynity. Who would've thought

I've always enjoyed that my interest is seen as insulting. Never understood why, so now I don't show interest.

The goal was achieved. You're probably socially awkward, and they don't want to be approached by someone socially awkward. You're doing exactly what whoever told you your interest is insulting wanted to make you do.

Maybe anon should try picking up a girl at church instead of the bar

Ah yes, cultists are easier because you already know they're gullible.
- I'm no stats major but that's what I was thinking
Maybe they don't attend church. Maybe they aren't even religious. How does this help anyone?
"Maybe they should join a crochet club and find a wholesome woman."
That's how ridiculous you sound.
- You don't have to be religious to pick up church girls, you just have to be kind. Then you can break them out
- I mean, crochet girls are pretty awesome, have you met any of them before?
The issue with Anon is not where he decided to pick the woman up, but how. What he said is basically "hey, I'm creepy enough to eavesdrop your conversation for three whole hours. Since you're desperate you might as well lower your standards and date someone random, like me." Of course she'd reject him.
- Sounds right to me
One might need to “underpin” their backstory a bit before wandering into a church and spitting game. Sounds like a lot of effort…almost like you should go to church for your whole life, first. Of course, Anon would be the same person - the church girls would also be rejecting him and he’d be crying about it - then people would tell him to just go to a bar.
The moral of the story, of course, being don’t go to bars by yourself, eavesdrop, then cry when somebody you don’t know doesn’t want to spend time alone with some creep who doesn’t even know how to make small talk. Buddy would have proposed on the date.
Mom?
- hey its me ur brother
Maybe religion doesn’t make you a good person and churches attract power hungry egomaniacal criminals
- This is absolutely true. But there's also good people in there just because of their family, I've seen them get broken out anecdotally
Maybe anon is not religious.
- He probably isn't, but that isn't required for this strategy