Please let me know
Please let me know
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the trick, i'd imagine, is to be rich enough that you don't have to deal with doing your own chores or errands (let the servants get groceries and cook and clean and drive you places).
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So, I knew people who do all those things. Work long days, go to the gym, have their hobbies... What they also did is:
- have aspouse who does all their chores
- Never do anything with said spouse
- Wonder why their second marriage is failing
Although a lot of them also claimed to only need 5 hours of sleep.
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That grindset "I only need x hours" is horseshit, everyone who does this thinks they're some kind of rare genetic anomaly when in reality they've simply gotten used to being sleep-deprived all the time
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My ex is one who claimed she only needed a five hour sleep and yet she still slept on eight to nine hour nights all the time. She always laughed when I said I have sleep problems and I need seven hours of sleep. She is ex for reason.
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As someone who is used to sleep-deprivation, I can second that.
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of course, the rich
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Those people don't have the 8 hours in the office
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You’re right. They “work” 24hrs a day.
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or the chores
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wait until you try to start a business on top
the easiest part would then be to cut everything off, maybe everyone off too
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I run my own company. Do hobbies on the side. Started a side hustle doing woodworking, spend time with my kids and girl, go on trips, relax, and get plenty of sleep. I just don't do everything in one day.
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wow, that's inspiring.
I agree that it is a balancing act that one must master. But when one doesn't yet have their footing in something, it feels like that initial workload is greater then the balance that comes in upholding the hustle in the future.
Just some thoughts from experience, maybe my weakness is thinking this way. Excuses are a coping mechanism that I'm trying to cut out of my life rn.
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Also, as a society, we spend far too much time working to live and it’s bullshit.
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It's so messed up how normalised that got.
"So wait we work for half our waking day?"
"Yes, but you also get two whole days off per week"
"Woah that sounds almost too good to be true."
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We had to fight tooth and nail for even that.
But fr I think the biggest error was that we didn't demand working hours be cut in half during women's liberation. The idea that one person can spend half their time working for pay to provide for themselves and a kid or two, so two people can provide for a full family together and have time to split the domestic labor is key.
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168 hours in a week
Minus 56 for sleep is 112
Minus 40 hour work week is 72
Minus half hour commute 5 days a week is 67
67
Minus 65 hours doomscrolling in bed is 2
How tf am I supposed to have hobbies and health with only 2 hours of free time every week?
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You actually don't have those 2 hours left. It's a half hour commute 1 way. Meaning an hour a day for 5 days not 30 mins for 5 days. Looks like you may need to cutt out 30 mins of doomscrolling.Nm. You did the math right, I just read it wrong without checking your working.
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spend less on candles
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"no"
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Yes, if part of your job involves physical activity and there's never overtime and it's not high stress and you have a short commute.
So, not my life right now, but that has been the case in the past.
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You'll for sure have to roll up those categories a bit. You will not have time for Fitness, work, side projects, life, fun, and hobbies - if considered as separate, non-overlapping things that you have to have each day. But how about each week I: Work out a total of 4 hours, have at least two evenings spending time with friends doing something I enjoy, and commit a total of 4 hours on a hobby, side-project, or other solo recreational or artistic activity I enjoy. Work, rest, and family will naturally take up the rest of the time. This doesn't sound so unrealistic to me, or like some crazy hustler grind-set that only the most driven could accomplish.
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I still think the 40-hour work week is inherently tied to the idea of the american nuclear family. The answer is that there simply isn't the time to do any of these things unless one person is doing the 40-hours a week office job and the other is doing the 40-hours a week "taking care of shit with the house/kids" job.
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People that do these things generally have a ton of energy, are incredibly disciplined, do things quickly, and to a pretty large amount, box-checkers and/or future-borrowers.
If you're a 45-60 minute showerer, you're going to have trade-offs
If you have threesomes during the week, you're going to have trade-offs
If you are the type of person who needs to actually feel peaceful the majority of the time, trade-offs
The ADHD person needs more hours in the day. For everyone else, there's half-assing it.
Priorities are everything. There isn't enough time to get everything in life. A lot of us have fallen con to the box-checker's quantity and compare ourselves to that. It may take some self work, but figuring out what actually makes you happy and what makes that sustainable is a pretty big, but worthwhile challenge. I'm in my 30s and still working on it, for what it's worth. Different people figure this stuff out at different rates, and my hypothesis is that your availability of resources and birth privileges are big factors in the time it takes to figure that out.
In other words, stop worrying about what makes other people happy, and focus on what makes you happy. There may be overlap, but there also may not be. We're all different and that's okay.
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Preach! :)
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Most of the people I know who do this consistently / longer-term are young adults and/or on drugs. Not like street drugs, but some combo of legally prescribed stimulant/anti-depressant/performance enhancing/hormone/weight-loss stuff. Modern medicine has the answers (for some).
A common scenario I'm seeing is that folks in their 30s, 40s, and 50s are being diagnosed with things like ADHD for the first time, and suddenly once they're on the proper stimulants, they can full throttle, always be doing something. I'm also seeing this a lot with folks who go on GLP-1 drugs. They lose a bunch of weight in a short amount of time and suddenly feel a lot better, mentally and physically. The other thing I see going on is people getting on hormone replacement or starting performance enhancing drugs a bit later in life, seems to be a real motivating factor for them since they're suddenly feeling 20 years younger.
So, maybe the answer is be young and if you can't be young, do drugs?
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guess that's where many go wrong.. be young and do drugs
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The adults are gonna be alright
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Before children and during the pandemic I did, but with one simple change, home office instead of 3 hours commuting in heavy traffic.
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You're not suppose to go to the gym every single day in most cases. The "average" resistance trainer might spend 3 hours total per week in the gym. (I.E. 3 days a week. 1 hour each session) Maybe more maybe less. Maybe a lot less. I only go once a week when I'm cutting. But that's just me. Granted his isn't including de-load weeks or full rest days. Which you absolutely need unless you're Achilles himself, and look what that got him.
If you're going to the gym "every day" for basic cardio. I would highly suggest investing in a home treadmill or similar instead. There are also a ton of stationary cardio exercises you can also look into or research online. Otherwise, most people can usually find some smaller, no bells and whistles, used treadmills/elipticals for fairly cheap if you look around and/or get lucky. Hell, I see people giving away cheap stationary bikes for free all the time. Depends on what you're looking for and what your goals are.
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If you bike to work, you feed two birds with one scone.
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It snowed 10 inches here today. Not really an option everywhere
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That's a great opportunity to go by ski, if the distance is reasonable.
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Then you're getting that upper body & core shovel workout.
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Gotta put those snow tires on.
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TIL it doesn't snow in Netherlands and Denmark /s
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I'm planning on doing some winter cycling today since the plows are catching up now!
But I get it, winter cycling requires more gear and more pre-planning that winter driving, you need to invest in better gear that isn't just whatever hat and gloves are the cheapest at the store, and it makes paved roads more like biking on gravel/sand so you have to put more work in, plus you show up at your destination just as sweaty as summer biking except now you have a bunch of snow gear to wash because it's all sweaty and gross too and is that melted snow or sweat or snot from my runny nose that I feel on this wet scarf I just covered my face in?!
Edit to add: OH AND THE WIND! Those fall/winter winds are hell on accoustic bicycles. I've needed to pedal down a steep hill with a trailer filled with 100lbs of kids and kids school stuff behind me because the wind was so strong that gravity alone wouldn't propel me down the hill!
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Yeah, just starting to bike to work one day is often impossible, just like starting to commute by car would be for someone who lives car-free.
It's a lifestyle you have to make possible. For me it was always a high priority in life, cause it turns wasted time in traffic into exercise, fun, and, depending on weather, a bit of adventure every day. I've never even considered a home or work place that didn't allow for a bike commute. Which means I didn't take the highest-paying job I was offered, and didn't rent the cheapest place per square meter. But I also don't have a car payment or gas expenses and I arrive awake and relaxed both at work and at home. -
if you're in a city, then it's still possible, your local government just says 'fuck you' to non-drivers
but yeah not much you can do if you're rural in that situation
of course, half of drivers can't drive in more than 2 in of snow anyways
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come on. do it!
its not really 10 inches :-)
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Break out the xc skis!
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angry sentiment. the people having nothing better to do than shouting "biking! is the best thing in the world. everybody should do it" for one misses that not everybody wants to do it (and being pressured to do sth causes an understandable and hefty backlash) and that more important, it's ableist because it assumes everybody is physically healthy enough to even bike in any weather.
for example, my throat reliably hurts every time i bike in temperatures of below 5°C. that's not because i'm really disabled, but because cold, icy wind + sensitive throat = sore throat. that sucks.
and that's besides the point that my coworkers wouldn't really appreciate to smell my sweat for 6 hours (we have no shower in office). and i also don't want to be in sweat-sticky clothes all day long.
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Your reply is ableist because it's hard for dyslexics to read.
If you can't ride a bicycle, then find some other synergistic way to save time.
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For most of the last 5 years I've been cycling 2 or 3 hours a day and spending about 45 minutes a day at the gym and I still have plenty of time for fun and socializing and whatnot while also getting 8 hours a day of sleep. This is possible for two reasons: 1) I semi-retired from my job as a programmer and I'm now a school bus driver, which takes about 4.5 hours a day (it helps that I live a half-mile from the bus lot, otherwise the job involves twice as much commuting as a normal job); and 2) I don't watch movies or television. For my money, 2 is the biggie -- spending hours a day watching movies and TV shows is such a massive time sink. I'm not judging people who do it since I just stopped enjoying it years ago, not because I'm consciously avoiding something I like in order to free up time.
Unfortunately, two months ago my parents' health took a nosedive and my father died and now I'm a nearly full-time caregiver for my mother. I haven't ridden my bike or been to the gym during this entire stretch. So if it makes anyone feel better, I'm no longer in the category of insanely fit older dude myself. But it is possible, at least.
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It's only really feasible if your fitness activities are also your hobbies and you have friends who share said hobbies. For example, rock climbing, running.
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Possible.. Hmz. Better ways exist to find. ✨
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I feel like this is pretty normal no? Gym in the morning go to work, come home potter round with projects, cook dinner socialise and lazy out for the rest of the night. On weekends you can spend all day on hobbies then go out at night.
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I used to work from home and lived close enough to gym, I could go at lunch. That was the best.
Then, I had to walk the dogs. No time for the gym anymore but still lots of exercise.
Now I live in an area far from a gym and it’s dangerous to walk the dogs. We play in the yard a lot, but I’m not getting exercise I need.
It’s totally doable if you have the right job, and live in the right place.
If you have kids or other obligations, it’s just not. There isn’t enough time in a day.
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I'm pretty close to getting all these done most days but the only reason it's possible for me is because I work from home and make enough money to be slowly getting ahead.
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I'm in a similar boat. Its definitely a luxury that comes from making decent money at a job that respects your personal time.
But also it does require some amount of focus on improving your own lifestyle because many people spend so much time scrambling to get their finances in order when the world is setup to separate one from their money that by the time you have your finances in order you can be too exhausted to try to do anything with yourself
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That's a good point and I can't take credit for having my finances in order. My partner is amazing and much better at budgeting than I am. I think that is another big factor for me. Having a supportive partner to encourage and grow with makes a night and day difference. I'm lucky and grateful but also work hard to have a better life.
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For a serious answer, it requires a level of strict discipline and adherence to schedule that makes any reward you get from it feel hollow
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Simple solution.
You have to make work side project too and gym what you for for fun / hobby.
Too bad if the only thing you hate more than exercise is the job.
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Not while also being a parent. Most of my hobbies and leisure / friend time has taken a giant shit since I became a dad.
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I found a good friend group of families with similarly aged children within walking distance of my home. We meet up maybe once a week at one of the local restaurants with patio space and let the kids play while we catch up. That space of 2-3 hours does triple duty: catching up with friends, getting the kids out of the house to do high energy activities with friends, and feeding everyone for dinner on a weeknight.
Having that kind of social group is key. My parents had church, but I'm not religious, so it was important to at least find a way to replicate that social sense of community somehow when I had kids.
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Not with two kids I ain't doing all those, no.
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Each day, I am just happy to have survived and have like 1 hour time to sit on the couch before going to bed at 9 pm.
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🫂 Hoping things turn around soon/eventually.
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One thing that helps me is making sure the fun thing I'm doing 2/5 things at once. Fun and Excercise is skiing. (I'm having issues finding a off-season activity. I'm getting too old for my old standby Judo. It's just not fun anymore, too much of me aches for days.)
My side project and life thing is spending time with my kid converting a Motorola Razr 40 Ultra into a slider physical keyboard phone. I have to buy a new cable for it, we broke it. But we learned things.
My job is a pretty sweet gig, and so I can spend down time reading and playing games. I beat Silksong at work. I read all of discworld and cosmere at work.
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5:30 - get up, get dressed, make the bed
5:45 - go for a walk with my wife and our cat
6:15 - shower, coffee, lemmy, household chores
7:30 - ride bicycle to work
8:30 - work starts
5pm - ride back home
6pm - cook and eat dinner
7pm - household chores
8pm - 1h free time
9pm - go to bed
So I manage to not fall behind on the household, shopping, sleep, me-time or exercise during the week.
I can carve out up to 4 hours for some special evening event once in a while.
Weekends are filled with side projects, visiting family and activities with friends.
Riding a bicycle to work was the game changer for me. It adds 2h of daily exercise and time to reflect during my commute.-
I'd say there's some differences between biking and gym in terms of whole body strength and flexibility, but it's good exercise. Definitely more productive than driving.
I think one point that can still be made is that this schedule means your average day (averaging over weekends) contains 7 hours of work/commute and only 3.5 hours of hobbies/activities.
A move to a 30 hour work week would mean that you would only spend 5.5-6 hours a day working and get 5 hours an average day for hobbies/activities.
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there’s some differences between biking and gym in terms of whole body strength and flexibility
Why you gotta dunk on cardio like that?! Seriously if there's one thing my recent focus on cardio has taught me it's that more folks who focus on strength need to spend time on cardio. Seriously it greatly reduces your recovery time and gets to where you just need to take micro breaks to recover enough for the next rep/set and can therefore lift longer and more frequently meaning you can get more reps and sets in the same amount of time. Last year I had a few sessions with a trainer because I wanted to work on some upper body strength and the trainer was visibly weirded out by my recovery time, where I'd only need 30-60 seconds between sets and they actually said "hey you can rest longer" and I'm just like "nah I'm good now let's go!" (It was also funny when doing some leg exercises seeing how I could do 4x as much weight pushing with my legs as I could lifting with my legs) Anyways I'd literally finish the 1 hour session in just 45 minutes thanks to the quick recovery times
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You bother to waste time making the bed, but not showering before going to bed? Bizarre.
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I don't even shower every day. Hope that doesn't break your mind.
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making the bed is nice because it removes moisture and therefore smell from the bedsheets, so it's fresh when you want to use it again in the evening :P
edit: important:
by "making the bed" i do not mean to put the blanket down in an orderly, square pattern or sth. i mean to shake it thoroughly once (maybe also do that outside the window) so the moisture from sweat that accumulates in it during the nighttime can be transported away with the wind. then it's clean and smells really fresh when you want to use it again in the evening.
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Yes but my commute is 10-15 minutes by bicycle, and my kids are all adults now.
I prioritize making time for sleep, exercise and sex in my day, and let everything else work around those. So some of my exercise comes from commuting but I do also do yoga about 4 hours a week and try to lift weights at least once.
When my kids were young, NO it is impossible to do alone. Even if you do have carpool help and aftercare and all, it's hard. There were years I had to get up at 5 and run to get exercise and other years it was the gym at 22:00 after a night class. But I have always found that it works better if you make your priorities (exercise needs to be one of those) and make a commitment to do those.
I usually have had jobs that were more than the 40 hours, and am NOT a work hard play hard person at all. But if you have one of those 8 hour a day jobs and sleep for 7.5 hours and take half an hour on each end of that to get ready and (critically important) don't have some hours long commute, there's plenty of time in the day. I remember when I first got a job that ended at 1700 and having time to cook, feed everyone and go to yoga, or hustle to the 1730 Jazzercise class after work and then still have time to make supper after, instead of feeling so terribly rushed all the time.
Now my day is: wake up around 7, leave for work around 9 after a nice leisurely morning. Work 9:30 to 6:30 (18:30) ride home and get ready for yoga, go exercise and come home and make supper by 9 (21:00), eat and have a Pokemon go walk or read or listen to music, (I cook, my husband takes care of the dishes after) then get ready for bed and try to sleep 23-7, sometimes this is midnight to 7 but I do need a solid 7 hours, too much sleep is migraine trigger unfortunately but I sleep well and soundly for that 7 and wake up pretty naturally. It feels like a balanced life.
ETA: I forgot to add, we do the grocery shopping Friday evenings, at a complex that has restaurants and bars and a Ben & Jerry's, go out for one drink or a restaurant meal then get groceries then go home, so we can treat it like a night out not just an errand. And most weekends are free of work, though we do each have busy seasons with 7 day weeks for a few weeks - during his busy season I do more of the cleaning and we get more takeout meals, during mine we get more takeout or he or the kids will cook. And we outsource the cleaning and have some essentials on auto-ship. I know that work and exercise aren't the only things you have to do in a week! But we don't do them on weekdays usually.
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You don't have to do everything every day
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Yes exactly. Hobbies can be enjoyed once a week or two weeks or even once a month! Or they can be practiced more frequently but for less time. 20 minutes a day practicing a musical instrument can do a lot for your learning in so little time. The hard part is sticking to it!
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Working double shifts for that sweet sweet high deductible health plan or an hour per day at planet fitness, so hard to decide
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I really don't think that's possible if you're neurodivergent and unmedicated. There are too many bees buzzing in our heads to be that productive.
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Not all types of neurodivergence fit that description or require medication.
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It's also completely unrelated to the question. It's like me asking "how can people run 42km" and some rando saying "it's impossible if you have no legs".
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Yeah.
There are 168 hours in a week.
I sleep about 7.5 hours, but am usually in bed for 8 hours. Let's just call that 56 hours.
I work about 45 hours per week. My commute takes me about 15 minutes each way, so that's a minimum of 2.5 hours per week of biking (this also serves as light cardio). More realistically, I do about half the pickups and dropoffs for my school age kids, so each one of those adds about 45 minutes, so that's another 3.75 hours. That's a total of 50.25 hours on work stuff.
I sneak in about 3 or 4 workouts per week during my lunch break, adding about an hour to each workday that I do that. On days I don't work out, I might run errands or eat lunch with friends. So let's just call that 5.
Let's add 7 hours to our morning routines, where I generally have to wake up an hour before actually leaving the home. And another 7 hours for my kids bedtime routines.
That leaves just under 43 hours per week of everything else. I'm generally able to fit in social activities like meeting up with friends two or three times per week (10 hours), cooking and meal prep (10 hours, may overlap with social activities like when I'm hosting a BBQ), miscellaneous chores (5 hours), a decent chunk of TV, movies, or reading (10-20 hours per week depending on what sports season it is), other kid activities (10-20 hours per week, may overlap with other social activities).
So the ordinary workweeks are a bit tight but doable. Vacation/holiday weeks tend to give a bit more time, but also tend to add on the parenting responsibilities.
And if I'm feeling time pressure, there's always places to get a bit more time: outsourcing some of the cooking and cleaning (not necessarily by hiring someone to come to the home but simply by eating out so that someone else cooks and washes dishes).
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I also have kids. IMO, the way you're accounting for hours doesn't reflect the boom/bust cycle of the 5 day work and school week.
A day in my work week is:
- wakeup around 6:15, feed kids, get their stuff ready for school and my stuff ready for work
- three days a week two neighbor kids come over at 7:30 so their parents can get to work on time
- I get the kids on the bus two days a week and work from home starting at 8:30 or drive into the office the remaining three days and get there around 8. Although I drive to work, I am able to sneak some exercise having walking conversations with coworkers thanks to being in a large building
- if I went into the office, leave my desk at 4 and get home around 4:45. If I worked from home the kids get off the bus around 3:45 but I'll still need to finish up my work day
- cook dinner, referee a heard of wild kids when they swarm through our house, get our kids to do their homework
- most days tend to have a kid activity thrown in the mix: baseball practice, swimming lessons, robotics club, etc that needs to somehow fit in with homework and dinner
- bath time around 7:00, story time runs till 8
- the kids are usually asleep by 8:30, which gives me 2.5 hours of time monday-friday that's work and kid free before I have to go to bed. I can't be too loud or I'll wake the kids up. Combine this with having been up for 14.5 hours and I'm not very inclined to do what used to be my main hobby, making things and tinkering, due to noise and/or mental energy levels. My wife is fine with me sneaking out a day or two a week for a bit, but I don't do that very often due to proximity to friends and many other friends having their own kids and routines
Things will probably calm down some when our kids are a touch older, but right now the week days are very hectic.
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My kids are younger than yours, which has some advantages (no homework, not really any extracurricular activities, longer sleep) and disadvantages (not really able to feed or clothe themselves, need parent help for bathing, still need some assistance on brushing teeth, need to be read to instead of being able to read on their own).
During busy weeks (like when one of us parents is out of town for work or something) we're quick to switch from home cooked meals to takeout or eating out, may hire cleaners, and push off some of the social interactions, but I also recognize that I'm working with a pretty nice buffer in that I'm already hanging out with friends about 10 hours per week.
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15 minute a day fitness program. Designed to be done with no equipment except a stopwatch.
https://leisureguy.ca/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/rcaf_xbx_5bx_exercise_plans_text.pdf
Actual exercises are in the back of the book.
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No, all this at once is not possible with any worthwhile kind of focus
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I'm not big on side projects, but I've made fitness into my fun, so those blocks get partially combined.
I actually think that's kind of key when it comes to fitness - you need to find an activity you actually find enjoyable, otherwise you're always going to be struggling to keep it up. I used to force myself to go running many years ago even though I hated it, and that predictably didn't go very well. Then I re-discovered biking, which takes very little mental effort for me to want to actively go out and do, since I like doing it so much. I've since started to find running actually fun, but it was a bit pointless there for a while
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Kinda, but only because I have 0 commute (job that allows to wfh as much as I want), I don't care about fitness all that much at the moment (I go to the gym maybe twice a week for 1.5h each, followed by like an hour in the sauna every time) and because my side project is also my hobby. I also don't like socializing with anyone but my partner, so it's all quite efficient.
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I'm doing all of those things but not actually having any fun....
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I did it for a good while. I only need 5-6 hours of sleep to feel rested and sharp, so that helps. I also never tried to do it all each day. I worked 5-6 days a week and, if I did work 6 days, the sixth day would be short(maximum 4 hours; minimum 2). After work I would either go to the gym, see a friend, or do some quick work on a hobby. Sometimes the friend and hobby were combined. Then eat, prepare for the next day, and sleep. On days off I would do any deep cleaning or larger cleaning up(couldn’t be done in 30 minutes or less during the work week), spend longer on hobbies or with friends, or take care of more daunting tasks(think shopping around for a needed item or service, or repairing something).
I had a strong support system when this worked and was single without children. I’m still single without children, but moved to a different state and am building a new physical support system(my support system back home is still there, but I don’t have random meals dropped off or offers for help with tasks anymore), have a completely different job, so all I have now is work, basic life tasks(that I’m still not totally successful at) and the occasional hobby time.
Point being: it’s doable, but there’s a lot that goes into it, it takes effort to get payoff. If you don’t have it, be easy on yourself and fit in the good stuff where you can and when you can’t remember when you could and know you will again.
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I only need 5-6 hours of sleep to feel rested and sharp, so that helps
There have been lots of studies regarding this and unfortunately no, that's not enough. 7 is basically the minimum.
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The closest I came to cracking this was buying a used treadmill, a steam deck, and some third party joycons that were a little more ergonomic. Play games while walking. Lost 20lbs playing BG3 and another 10 beating Hades. Then life happened and that routine fell apart. But it worked pretty well. Just need to get back into it. Obviously not feasible for many due to the initial expensive or space requirements.
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The trick is not trying to force them into every single day. You do some stuff on your free time and some during the weekend
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OP where did you share this image from? Curious to know which app generates images with this much whitespace all the time. It's starting to become very annoying for some inexplicable reason.
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You don’t have kids obviously.
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I know a new father whose wife and kid recently had to go out of town for a few days. You know how Goku trains with like 250 lbs of weighted clothes? Having a kid is like that but with time management
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It absolutely is possible, but you have to be completely honest with yourself and have some discipline. If sitting on the couch and doing nothing is important too you, then you literally have to plan time to sit on the couch and do nothing.
Everything you can possibly do, including doing nothing, because doing nothing is doing something, has to be categorized into important/not important and urgent/not urgent.
Any thing not important and not urgent should be completely eliminated from your life:
Most of us say we don't have time anymore because we miss the aimless free time of our youth. But that time is gone...
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Sitting on the couch doing nothing doesn't have the same appeal when there's a timer and more shit to do waiting at the other end of it.
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I know. It sucks. But time is the most valuable resource you'll ever have in your life. We all only have a certain amount of time, then we'll cease to exist.
Would you rather spend your life unhappy on the couch because you're stressed out that you don't have enough time to do everything, or would you like to take control of your life and truly value the time you're given?
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For me, the math here ain't mathing. Work + commute + lunch = only 9 hours? Nah bro. I don't live at work. Stuffing your face in 15min is bad enough.
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Don't anglos count lunch break as work? "Working 9 to 5" is just 8 hours, so either you skip lunch or you count it as work time.
Around here we don't, and my job for example has a mandatory 1-hour lunch break, so 9 hours are all taken up from clock-in to clock-out, nevermind commute.
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Yes. But no kids and the gym is next to the office.
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I so wish my work had a gym. It would be a good use for my lunch breaks.
As it is, I "cozy cardio" at my desk and get a few hours in each day. Not a substitute for proper exercise, but it does seem to make me less antsy and better able to focus.
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Personally, I manage to do so only because I genuinely can't afford the life and fun.
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I did.
Work + commute + lunch 9 hours. Sleep 8 hours.
Work out about one hour lifting weights or grocery store + meal prep on rest days.
1 hours spent on breakfast, shower, dinner etc.
Total 19 hours which left me with 5 for hobbies on weekdays. Laundry, cleaning, etc was done an hour or two on Saturday.
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Wfh means I have more tim. Gym equipment at home means more convenience. So I can usually manage fitness and work plus healthy meals every day. Joined a book club so I read more and that meets online so it's very convenient too.
I don't do side projects and I got permission to use time in work to do learning, but it's really hard to save that time as there's always someone important to do in work.
Having kids means all this stuff at home doesn't require a babysitter, which would fuck it all up sometimes.
So definitely not doing everything I could or i want, keep evening time as unscheduled as I can cause I need that freedom. I also recognize that different life stages come with different challenges and opportunities.
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With a kid and full time job (home office though), I would need to reduce sleep to get any time for side projects, gym or hobbies. I am not sure it would be wise.
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With a kid, your most enjoyable hobby would be getting a good night's sleep. If you ever got to do it.
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I don’t know what I did in my life to deserve her, but among other things, she is a sound sleeper
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I guess you can but you won't have time for personal relationships or a family I guess. Gotta be quite focused.
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No time to sleep, gotta cram in some of those "extracurricular activities" to prove to future employers that I will do work for free.
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Me.
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not me. I started to priotize down time where I just don't do anything. I was trying to keep up with all that stuff and it was draining me. of course, working too much was a huge factor (even 8 extra hours in a week is 8 fewer hours for hobbies, plus the impact of the extra mental drain, there's like a time efficiency hit too)
I can keep up with work and like three other things nowadays while getting enough sleep and down time. I just rotate which things week to week. sometimes it's video games, woodworking, gardening, reading, other hobby stuff, home projects, etc. obviously there are weeks where I do more, but that's not the average. and the minimum is two. rec sports keep me engaged with people and getting out of the house regularly instead of "oh it's been rainy for four days and I haven't needed to buy anything so I haven't been outside much in the past 100 hours because I couldn't go for a bike ride"
oh and I don't have kids, just dogs.
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not me lmao
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Love, work, friends: pick 2. -- Kenneth Koch 1998-05-18
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I do all of those things! Not all in one day of course, I spread it out over an entire week.
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I kinda im!
Wake up @ 8am, start work at 8.15am, work till 17.
Then 1h to 4h of sports (either gym, rope climbing or bouldering), 5 times a week
At that point is 18.30/20, got a solid few hours for hobbies/friends/chill.
As you might have notice I don't cook, and commutes are short when climbing ca. 40 mins biking away, work is at home or if I go to the office I go in my lunch hour (20mins commute), gym is 3mins away and bouldering is 10mins biking
Also, no kids.
I sleep every day at ca. 11.30. Get solid 8h in bed, but only around 7h of sleep sadly. Trying to make it 8!
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Kind of. But I mostly only get to do hobbies on weekends and don't always get my full 8 hours
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I think it's all about priorities and as another guy said here at least a rough schedule/routine.
My hobby is being active (drumming multiple hours per day), then you can save the gym (I do some climbing now and then though). Commuting with bicycle to work also helps, work less (I do 25h/week which is max for me, I rather spend less money and live in a community than having to work more to finance myself, life does have too much interesting to offer than to spend all your time with working).
I also like to eat stuff like Huel (the savory stuff) which saves me time of cooking/buying groceries (and I have a rather high protein intake which is good for drumming, as fast/strong muscles/tendons are quite important (and it noticebly helps with growing muscles, I didn't want to believe until then how important high-protein intake is when being active)).
I basically don't play any video games (ironically I'm quickly bored), do some open source programming instead (so side-projects?), try to avoid "wasting" time on e.g. social media.