Described yourself in a paragraph
Described yourself in a paragraph
I recently meet someone and was going to ask them to describe themselves in a paragraph. I realized I wasn’t able to do it myself. I also wasn’t sure how they would react. I thought I would ask here first and see how you folks react.
I’ll define paragraph as three to four sentences.
…without doxxing yourself.
Ha! Yeah, if anyone actually responds please don’t do that!! 🙂
That sounds horribly transactional. Like you're asking people to apply for a job as your friend.
That may just be me, but I wouldn't react well if someone approached conversation like a job interview.
As stated fair point. Again, coming to the collective to gather data helps us be better people. Didn’t actually ask, and feedback suggests don’t do it… as such I won’t.
Thanks for responding, appreciated!!
Oh I'm just... a ... regular type dude >!... with a big-ass dick!<
So you've got another body part instead of a penis or a penis that is shaped in such a way that it only fits into one hole only and only with people who have giant butts?
Must be horrible
no
That would be a completely acceptable answer! An answer this person might have given as well. Which would make things awkward after that. You perspective is noted.
Thanks!!
You're welcome.
i'm surprised nobody said "i use arch btw" yet
Oooffff! Funny!! Yeah, that is pretty prevalent on Lemmy 🤣
Daydreamer that dreamt themself out of a functional life. Not just a late bloomer but still a sprout. A hopeful idealistic child in the body of a jaded misanthropic adult. I dance to a tune playing in my earphones where only I can hear it most of the time, unless someone is close enough.
Your third sentence sounds like something I would say. Thank you so much for sharing.
I hope others get a chance to hear your tune and maybe help you not be such a misanthrope. But, continue being a daydreamer
Nice try FBI
You got me!! You saw through it! I’m trying to profile all of Lemmy with this one… and failing miserably!
🙃😁
Not today NSA
Nice rhyming game that’s starting up here!!
I'm a jack of all trades master of none and Maker. I'm not afraid of being alone both physically and metaphorically. I care about other people far more than most realize, but on my terms like how I often see potential beyond what others see in themselves. My humor, curiosity, abstractions, and occasional cynicism are often misunderstood but have nuance in most cases.
Your response is great and appreciated. I think when this question originally came to me, I was thinking of this type of answer.
I think others have provided a good point for the question itself and I probably won’t ask it. You taking the time to respond was helpful!!
Why? That's what the account bio is for
Not sure I follow. Would you be willing to expand on this?
I also apologize. I met someone IRL and this question came to mind. I have not asked for / seen any social media profiles.
However you are correct, they could have something posted that “sums them up”. I’m just not aware. We just recently met.
Appreciate the response!!
Foolish fool, I can expand a single sentence into several pages!!!
Fair… another reason I was asking the collective. Was curious how many may say it was unpossible to do in a few sentences.
(It’s the Simpsons, don’t harass me for spelling 😁)
Nice try Facebook.
FBI… maybe… NSA… little less likely… Facebook… NEVER!!! 🤣
I'd leave it on read and probably never talk to you again
That’s a fair response. A bit extreme IMO but everyone has a different perspective on this.
For context, it would have been asked during a phone call not a message. However, they could have hung up and never said anything to me again.
The final consensus, for me, is this question should be left out of the conversation.
I do appreciate you taking the time to provide your perspective, thanks!!
I'd just copy/paste the lyrics from "what's my age again?" By Blink 182.
Pretty much sums it up.
Hahah, that’s too much 🤣 I doubt you’re that bad!! Fun song though!! Thank you!
I am curious and like to think I'm humorous. I have a lot of issues, but I do my best to only allow my issues to effect those that have asked for it(in a literal sense, like my friends asking me how im doing when im dealing with issues). As a result of my curiosity I have attained a very wide set of experiances, knowledge, and skills. My remaining goals are family oriented, in the sense that I'd like to begin the process of settling down and working on team based goals.
Edit: i guess this info may be cheating, but it worth noting that the order of my sentencing is as important as the content itself.
Nah, you’re good. Your answer is your answer. I do like the clarifying point about the order of the sentences.
I agree (or maybe it’s something I do) that a response to a question like this has defined beginning, middle, end.
Who I was, who I am, who I want to be.
I think you’re going to make one heck of a team with someone!!
Thank you so much for responding!! 🙂
I'm vaguely humanoid shaped and mostly made of meat.
Straight and to point, well played!! I guess the direct response is the best! Appreciate it 🙂
I like to devalue myself in front of everyone, that is literally part of my personality. No matter how much people try to compliment me, I'll always call them liars and tell them that I'm actually garbage. Because being proud of not being proud of yourself is something nobody dares to do.
Ever wonder why I call myself Resol van Lemmy? Type that word backwards and you'll know why. In fact, my profile picture is actually related to that very result.
Ok I broke the rule. But still.
It can be tough to see the positive in a compliment. I get it. You shouldn’t be so hard on yourself though.
More people than you think do what you do. There entire lifestyles based on it.
I can’t and won’t try to change your mind… again, all I can do is ask you to not be so hard on yourself. One compliment at a time.
Thank you for sharing.
I'll be sure to follow your advice.
Related, whenever people ask me how I am, the usual reply is "I am alive".
You know I can still see that you deleted the message, right?
I'm late to the party, but I don't think there is anything wrong with asking someone to talk a bit about their self in an attempt to get to know them better. The context is very important however. If you and this person have been talking one on one for a bit already, maybe something like "I have enjoyed talking to you, can I ask you to tell me a bit about yourself so I can get to know you better?" Is an appropriate way to go about it. I'm not sure if the person you are talking about is someone you met in real life or on the internet.
As far as the internet goes, a/s/l was a very popular question to ask 20 years ago in chat rooms but probably wouldn't go as well on modern social media. For that reason I don't think straight up asking "can you describe yourself in a paragraph" would work very well either. Most people dont seem to use social media as a way to get to know the other users on a personal level. It almost feels like it's against the point of 'social' media, but most interactions I've seen between users are brief and users go on their way after a few posts. Especially sites like Lemmy where we don't provide personal information. On the other hand, Lemmy is very small and if you find someone with a shared interest in a niche community, i think its ok to reach out, but maybe try to just keep the conversation on that topic.
If you're talking to someone in real life maybe try the previous suggestion. Or skip it all together and invite them to hang out somewhere. No better way to learn about a person than by spending time with them. And by doing that, there is less of a chance of making them uncomfortable by talking about their self.
Nah, your fashionable coming to the party 🙂
Right! Agreed, context is important. I think this particular question won’t be used, at least not the way I originally thought it would. My “idea” was to get away from the back and forth of questioning.
As an example… you ask someone if they consider themselves an introvert. They answer and they “how about you?”. I originally thought maybe they would be able to just tell things about themselves and I could ask follow up questions. All without it being back and forth.
Having said that, I do realize that is as much my ability to make things interesting in the conversation as well.
Yeah, I remember the a/s/l days. I’m glad those are gone haha. Yes, social media in the current context is terrible for true social interactions. I don’t think that’s the point of it anymore though, well corporate social media anyway.
For context we met IRL, but there’s some distance between us so hanging out is challenging. Your point is valid about not making them uncomfortable. That’s my ultimate goal and your (and others) opinion have been a great help!!
Thank you so much!
You have the twelve personalities.
Dominant, submissive, pedantic, curious, mean, innocent, humorous, trusting, romantic, nurturer, charming and horny.
Everyone is all of them bar the aro-ace people who lack the latter four.
I am 3 6 12 8 7 4 11 1 2 10 5 in that order.
Results of me in real life may vary due to having mild to moderate mental illnesses.
To make your own list, remind yourself that what you look for in a life partner is likely what you can score yourself high on on the complement side, so 1 likes 2 and vice versa 3&4, 5&6 etc....
Maybe I should put 11 much higher on this list.Interesting, this feels rather scientific in the thought process. Or, someone who digs psychology at least.
I think my initial thought for the question was more light hearted. A few things to describe yourself.
Also, not sure this would be headed toward life partner status. Still, you bring up an interesting thought.
I will give this some consideration and make my own list. May still prove valuable as I explore things with this person.
Appreciate you making me think but, not too hard haha!